trauma

How Can I Help My Child Process The Hard Parts Of Their Story? – Foster Parents Article

At some point or another, children with a trauma history will begin to recount, remember, or talk about the hards parts of their story. How do we help them process through this? Here are some steps… On an unseasonably warm night in February last year, we sat on our front porch with our children gathered around. Our objective was to assemble a new wagon we had just bought for our new farm (yes, we bought a farm!). The excitement was…

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How To Begin Believing In More – Foster Parents Article

| Share | Tweet | Pin It | email There’s more happening with your child than just bad behavior. In fact, there are reasons why he or she behaves the way they do. But before we can make sense of this, we must lay the foundation for believing in more. It begins with a different mindset. You cannot take your child’s behavior at face-value. Because of his or her trauma history, there present behaviors are often the expression of an unmet…

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Introducing: Believing Beyond The Behavior – Foster Parents Article

| Share | Tweet | Pin It | email Your child’s behavior is routinely agitated, anxious, aggressive, violent, or impulsive. And you’re exhausted. You don’t know how you can make it one more day. But you must. How do you keep going? Our new podcast series will walk you through this and so much more… Next Thursday, May 14th, we are kicking off a brand new 6 week podcast series all about believing beyond the behavior. Through this series we’re going…

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Living In Your New Normal (Part 3): Accepting – Foster Parents Article

| Share | Tweet | Pin It | email As we continue to live in the new normal of the COVID-19 pandemic, there’s a point where we must begin to accept life as it is. How do we do that when we are parenting children who struggle with change? Over the past month we have had several conversations with families who are struggling to keep their head above water in this new normal. Their children have already dealt with so much…

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How Can I Encourage Family And Friends To Support Our Parenting Style? – Foster Parents Article

| Share | Tweet | Pin It | email Helping family and close friendships understand you and how you parent can be tricky. They mean well, but may not fully understand how to support you. But there are ways you can encourage them and help them gain a healthy understanding. Once we know the importance attachment and bonding play in a healthy upbringing, we tend to parent differently. Children from traumatic pasts have had their initial attachment disrupted, so we must…

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The Effects of Childhood Trauma – Foster Parents Article

Children who come into our care here at Upbring have often experienced significant trauma due to abuse and neglect. While there is no universal way trauma affects a child or presents its symptoms, it’s not to be discredited or ignored. As we continue to recognize April as National Child Abuse Prevention Month, we’ve asked Upbring Family Services Clinical Director, Frank Lopez to share his expertise on how to spot signs of trauma in children and how to provide the best…

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How To Help Our Children Navigate The Trauma Of Coronavirus – Foster Parents Article

| Share | Tweet | Pin It | email We are in unprecedented and uncharted territory with the Coronavirus outbreak. In fact, the landscape of life is changing quickly because of it. How do we help our children navigate the anxiety, stress, and added trauma of all of this? If you’re anything like us, it’s been a week. We’ve all mostly stayed at home, helplessly standing by while school gets cancelled, spring sports get postponed, church services cease, and life as…

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How The Story Of Your Past Is Not The Story Of Your Future – Foster Parents Article

| Share | Tweet | Pin It | email Our kids have come from hard places. And often, they can feel as if they’ll never get out from under the weight of those past storylines. But everything they’ve gone through in the past, does not define their future. Embo Tshimanga is living proof of this! As a youngster, Embo Tshimanga lived in over twenty-five different homes including six homeless shelters, group homes, two women’s shelters, cars, and five foster homes. The…

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The Push of Gravity | Herding Chickens and Other Adventures in Foster and Adoptive Care – Foster Parents Article

Maybe I’m not as cut out for this whole thing as I imagined. Years ago I felt like a kind of warrior, fighting against past traumas alongside my kids. These days I am battling my own trauma and trying to make it through as best as I can. It isn’t as if things are terribly bad or difficult right now. They’re not. At least, not in the way they used to be. Violent meltdowns where I’d get punched, kicked, bitten…

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The Horrors Of Cutting – Five Reasons Teenagers Cut Themselves – Single Dad, Parents Article

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain I remember the first time I saw anyone who cut themselves.  Of course, I had seen TV shows and other films talk about teens doing harm to themselves.  Even committing suicide.  Cutting one’s self seemed stranger to me than suicide.  More foreign to me than committing suicide.  Suicide felt like it had…

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