transracial adoption

Teaching Kids to Respect Other Cultures Starts With Understanding Your Own – Foster Parents Article

I remember being about nine years old the first time I realized my family culture was different from the culture I was growing up in. My mom had bought a boxed set of cassette tapes of “The News from Lake Wobegon” from a library book sale. As I listened to Garrison Keillor describe life in the midwest, my life started to make just a little more sense. I was a girl growing up in California being raised by a mother…

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Please Buy Your White Kids a Black Doll – Foster Parents Article

I was casually strolling through the aisles at Walmart when I overhead something that made my heart race. I was looking at some dolls, trying to pick a Christmas gift for my daughter and two women right next to me were doing something similar. One woman picked up a doll– the last one on the shelf that made baby noises when you hugged it. And that’s when the interaction started. Woman: Oh, I like this one! I think we should…

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We are an Adoption Success Story. And it’s still Hard. – Foster Parents Article

November is National Adoption Awareness month and over the years we’ve been an adoptive family, my feelings about this month have run the gamut. In the beginning, I just wanted to post beautiful pictures of my beautiful kids and acknowledge what an amazing thing adoption is in my life. Adoption made me a mother and for that I will be forever grateful. But as my kids have gotten older and have been able to express their own feelings about adoption,…

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Thoughts On Adoption From A Transracial Adoptee – Foster Parents Article

| Share | Tweet | Pin It | email One of the greatest resources for us as adoptive and foster parents is adoptees, and adoptee’s voices. We are fortunate to partner with many adoptees from all ages and walks of life. We have learned so much from them, and will continue to do so. On the latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are pleased to welcome transracial adoptee and advocate, Tori DeMartile. Tori is a transracial adoptee on a…

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The “Where’s Your Mom?” Microaggressions – Parenting Twins Article

It happened again. People who know us forgot that I was his mother. I am white. My son is Black. This is a tremendous invisible burden for him. Being asked to explain yourself or justify yourself as an adoptee is called “narrative burden.” It’s not fair to him, but it is his albatross. Every.single.time. we are out in public together, something small happens to make us feel “othered”. These tiny things add up, especially for a young impressionable child. “Microaggressions”…

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If Calling the Cops for a Noise Complaint Kills an Innocent Black Child, We Need to STOP.CALLING.THE.COPS. – Parenting Twins Article

Would Jordan Edwards still be alive if neighbors hadn’t called the cops with a noise complaint? I don’t know who made that call, but someone did. Tonight, the cop who shot Jordan in the head with a rifle for no reason has just been charged with murder. I am overwhelmed with relief to see the justice system maybe start to work this time. But we need to stop for a minute and think about the person who made that call…

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