Single parent

Money, money, money — The Single Dad’s Guide to the Galaxy – Single Dad, Parents Article

The society we live in demands we earn money to literally survive. New Zealand is, or maybe that should be was, an egalitarian society and so education and health is universally available but money has become the great differentiator. If you have a lot, then you have more options and, theoretically, an easier life.I have a part-time role teaching a citizenship course at University (Tū Tira Mai: Practicing engagement if you want to sign up but you have to be…

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Reality TV – The Single Dad’s Blog — The Single Dad’s Guide to the Galaxy – Single Dad, Parents Article

While I haven’t been posting I have certainly been thinking. Thinking about parenting and, as my teenage children will soon be off and gone, society in general. I have been building a list of things that I think we could do without as well as a list of things we need of and that’s going to be my focus in-between sprinting, breathless around and around and around . . .First on the list – Reality TV. I can hear many…

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Honesty Over Ease: Why I Won’t Avoid the Daddy Question – Single Mum, Parents Article

As a single mother by choice I expected the “Who’s the daddy?” question to come up. I’ve actually been surprised at the restraint people have shown when I’ve told them I’m expecting while not wearing a ring and still going by Miss. Sure, in some ways it’s none of people’s business, but as someone who is at times overly inquisitive herself, I understand it’s also natural to wonder. Since I’ve been so open throughout my journey to single motherhood, I…

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It’s meal time again. – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

“Dad you have just made that up. I’m not having your favourite desert as a kid was called a Knickerbocker Glory” It was. It was the ultimate childhood treat. I sometimes feel as old as Captain America – in a time before Windows 1.0, in a time before Rubiks really annoying Cube, probably even before VHS Recorders. The Knickerbocker became a bit of favourite for me. It’s was layered ice cream and fruit sundae heaven. And where did they get…

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Dilemmas – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The world is full of dilemmas and seemingly perplexing questions. Sleep on your back or front Tea or Coffee Is Trump a criminal or political hero To help the injured bird or leave it for the hungry predator Football or Soccer Is Brexit a good thing or stupid Sunsets or Sunrises Tomato Ketchup or Mayonnaise on Fries Captain America or Ironman Toblerone – best chocolate ever or a chocolate designed to do damage to the top of your mouth on…

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A New Beginning?? | Single Mothers by Choice – Single Mum, Parents Article

Here’s what I want. I want a baby. I am 39 years old. I am single. I have never been in a long term relationship. I am facing the reality that it is just not going to happen for me in time to have a baby. I have always wanted kids. When I was a kid I wanted to be a mom. I used to love to babysit. I don’t so much love babies, per se, as kids. I am…

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Going back to Switzerland? – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

It’s Switzerland Sunday again. Maybe one day I will do a Loire Valley post – another favourite place for the two of us before we became a team of 3. Sadly I’ve not been to that many countries but of the ones I have visited Switzerland has a look and feel like no other. It never fails to take your breathe away. It’s a country which uses all the colours available – no need for filters or photo enhancers here.…

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To Be or Not to Be a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) – Single Mum, Parents Article

There are many reasons TO become a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) and many reasons NOT TO. It’s such an individual decision to make. It is difficult to be a single mom, very difficult, but I think it’s also difficult to be a married mom. This decision isn’t one to be taken lightly, and it helps to really look at your whole life while you decide whether being a SMC will fit into it. When I was thinking I worried…

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My Only Regret is That I Waited So Long – Single Mum, Parents Article

I’ve always wanted to have children, always wanted to mother. I’ve been an au pair to other families, spent time with all of the kids of friends and family. I hoped and assumed, of course, that I would have a family of my own when the time came. I suppose that’s the tricky part – that time thing. Like many, I’ve been in a series of long relationships that have not withstood the tests of time. A long medical training…

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Dreams | Single Mothers by Choice – Single Mum, Parents Article

Sometimes I reflect on my life over the years. 15 years, probably more, that I have fought for what I want, for what I believe. I guess in a way motherhood and dating go hand in hand, since my whole life I believed that one was the means to another. My mother tells me that I have always believed that what I wanted, what I desired was out there. She admired my persistence and fight that it could be real…

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