single motherhood

Our Last Weeks Alone – Single Mothers by Choice – Single Mum, Parents Article

During the last few weeks the world around us has changed suddenly. Hot sticky days with harsh bright sunlight have been replaced by cool, crisp dry days that smell of fresh mown grass and distant fires. Many of the 6-foot-high corn fields have been mowed down, and the guy selling 12 ears for $4 out of the back of his truck has sold out for the season. The soybean fields are starting to turn golden, and maples and ash here…

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Birth Plan B – Single Mothers by Choice – Single Mum, Parents Article

All that I could say while being lifted into the ambulance was “she can’t come now, she can’t come now.” The doors closed and I could think of nothing but the little girl inside of me. I was in premature labor at 28 weeks pregnant. When I arrived at the hospital the paramedics rushed me down the hallway. As I lay on my side on the gurney to ease the pain, the look of concern was reflected in the strange…

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Managing Your Finances During Pregnancy: 9 Pointers  – Single Mum, Parents Article

If you have a baby on the way, congratulations! That’s wonderful news. At the same time, you may have a few concerns about your budget. After all, you’re now responsible for supporting at least one new life. Few would argue that giving birth is inexpensive. However, you can get your budget under control by simultaneously cutting back in some areas while boosting your income. Here’s how. Tips for Saving Money Ah, the lure of those adorable baby outfits and that…

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Mother’s Day as a Single Mom – Single Mum, Parents Article

When you’re a single mom, Mother’s Day looks a little different. There isn’t any sleeping in. When little man wakes up at 4:10, then again at 5:25, there isn’t anyone else to push out of bed to go get him. But then when you pick him up and give him a good morning hug and he tells you, “So happy!” you’re pretty damn glad it was you who went in to get him, and you could care less what time…

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No One – Single Mothers by Choice – Single Mum, Parents Article

As I sit here tonight going through pictures of Tate, ‘checking’ Facebook, deleting some emails, I am overwhelmed by the quiet of my home. Tate has been in bed since 7, and Vincent is still not pleased with me over his visit to the vet yesterday. I looked around and just became insidiously aware of my aloneness. Every. Single. Night. Once Tate is asleep I do have a myriad of things to accomplish before I can rest and just be.…

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My Village – Single Mothers by Choice – Single Mum, Parents Article

Just a few short weeks ago, my aunt died. This was a woman who was among the first to tell me she supported me fully when I told her I wanted to become a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) … the woman who threw me a baby shower, the first person aside of my mom to come visit my newborn son, and the woman who told me she thought it was “awesome” how I was choosing to live my life.…

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I’m Not Alone!! Oh Great Goddess, I am NOT ALONE! – Single Mum, Parents Article

Unless you are nearing or over 40, single and childless, you cannot imagine how I feel and that’s not your fault – we are just living different experiences. I have not been able to express to my friends how it FEELS to be in my situation, but I am now connected with other women who TRULY understand what it’s like to want a child so much that they will do it on her own – even when deep down they…

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The Politics of SMCs – Single Mothers by Choice – Single Mum, Parents Article

When I first joined the national Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) organization, and my local group, I assumed the other women I would meet – virtually and in person – would be fairly similar to me.  I thought that making such an “unconventional” life choice would be a decision only left-leaning, primarily urban/coastal women would make.  I could not have been more wrong. What I’ve found instead is an amazingly diverse community of women.  Our political affiliations are all across…

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4 No-Brainer Ways to Save Money (Even on a Lower Income) – Single Mum, Parents Article

I got a question recently asking how can I save money when I don’t make much money? Today I want to share with you 4 No-Brainer Ways to Save Money (Even if You Have a Low Income).  It is important to save money for emergencies and to build wealth. We hear this all the time. The recommended amount to save is about $1,000 into your savings account for emergency funds for just things that come up that we have no…

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Deciding Whether Or Not To Become an SMC – Single Mum, Parents Article

Choosing whether or not to become a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) is a very personal decision. And no one can make this decision for you. Only you can figure out which path is right for you and which will make you happiest and most fulfilled. That said, of course there are hundreds of ways of living child-free, just as there are hundreds of ways of living with children. Each person has to decide what parts of her/his life she/he…

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