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Lessons Learned From a New Hip – Single Dad, Parents Article

Closing in on two weeks since I had total hip replacement surgery – and before anyone asks doing really well.  There are some lessons learned from a new hip installed that are worth noting (if not sharing). “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”  This is what most people who I know who had the surgery said to me going into it.  And generally I agree – I can say there was one minor complication in the hospital, but I woke…

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Girls and Their Hair – Dad the Single GuyDad the Single Guy – Single Dad, Parents Article

A lesson learned back in my teen-aged years about girls and their hair has generally served me well later in life. That lesson, just be complimentary, don’t be judgemental or critical.  It’s not that I don’t have an opinion, or don’t want to share it.  But girls and their hair share a unique relationship. As an only parent to two girls generally speaking I have let my daughters keep their hair as they want.  I call it picking my argument. …

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8765 Times Seven – Dad the Single GuyDad the Single Guy – Single Dad, Parents Article

There are 8765 hours in a year.  That mean more than 61-thousand hours have passed since Risa passed away – and still time remains an elusive concept to grasp.  Sometimes the hours (and days and months) fly by as I am amazed at what we have accomplished.   Other times, I can feel each of the hours painfully tick by – seemingly without a concern of the one that will follow. Perhaps its due to the time of year when this…

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Shared Experience – Dad the Single GuyDad the Single Guy – Single Dad, Parents Article

My kids have had their first Grateful Dead experience – and it was a success.  We shared the experience last night at Madison Square Garden as Dead and Company covered three hours or so of material.  As we were heading home, I realized this is just the latest in the shared experience my girls and I have. Through academic achievement, school performance and athletic endeavor, my girls have allowed me to share in the experience of their lives.  Seeing their…

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Life Isn’t A Hallmark Moment – Single Dad, Parents Article

At some point today during a scroll through Facebook I found a post about National Cancer Survivor’s Day – which I somehow thought was in June (it is).  The post was one of those copy and paste to status, so no telling when it was actually written.  But it made me think – we’re all kind of cancer survivors (at least in my house) and life isn’t a hallmark moment to be commemorated like that. Hallmark as a euphemism for…

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It’s Not A Popularity Contest – Single Dad, Parents Article

There are times – and I think it’s more now that my kids are older than when they were younger – when parents have to make a decision and the outcome is an unhappy child.  We know what call they want – but it’s not a popularity contest, so sometimes they’re just not happy. Over the last two weeks, I’ve run afoul of expectations of both of my girls.  While I can see their point of view on the issues…

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Your Best and Hope – Dad the Single GuyDad the Single Guy – Single Dad, Parents Article

Generally, I try to keep things positive and keep it in perspective.  It would be easy to lament the things I’m either missing or have been without in life.  But I don’t think that serves me well – instead (and I use this metaphor a lot) I look in the mirror in the morning and hope the guy looking back knows you do your best and hope for the right outcome. Admittedly, it sounds a little overly thought out –…

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