Parents

How Can I Help My Child Process The Hard Parts Of Their Story? – Foster Parents Article

At some point or another, children with a trauma history will begin to recount, remember, or talk about the hards parts of their story. How do we help them process through this? Here are some steps… On an unseasonably warm night in February last year, we sat on our front porch with our children gathered around. Our objective was to assemble a new wagon we had just bought for our new farm (yes, we bought a farm!). The excitement was…

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Grieving during quarantine – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

As much as I like writing (well my version of writing), my favourite part of blogging is getting to read other blogs. They can make you laugh, cry, think and fill you with renewed hope. One of my favourite blogs is by Katie and Evee. It really captured me as like my son, grief often hits when we are far too young. They talk about it so beautifully. It’s grief with hope, loss with the desire to live again. I’m…

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Loaves, Fish, & Adoption Funding – Foster Parents Article

What God desires to happen, He makes happen. God is faithful to give us what we need in order to live in obedience to His will. And we find evidence of this in a story tucked in each of the four Gospels. 5,000 people had gathered to hear Jesus speak. After a long day of learning, they were hungry. The disciples suggested sending the crowd to surrounding towns to find food for themselves. But Jesus had a different idea. From…

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“The Moment We Knew We Were Called to Adopt.” – Foster Parents Article

Just three years after grieving the loss of their daughter, Jon and Kristen felt called to adopt. The following post written by Jon details their journey from calling to homecoming.  In January 2013, we mourned the loss of our daughter Kate. She was stillborn at seven months. We think about the many moments when we felt Kate’s hands and feet push out against Kristen’s baby belly and the eagerness and anticipation we experienced waiting to bring her into our world.…

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Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles – Parents Article

I love Chapter 14 of this book because it is about balancing boundaries and independence, which is something I think as parents we are always riding the line between, no matter what the age of our children. Part of boundaries and setting limits, particularly for toddlers and onward could be to offer two small choices (either one acceptable), follow through on the choices (I can hold you if you sit quietly or I can put you down), and then be…

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I speak proper – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

These little beauties seemingly flower earlier every year. When we first moved here the snowdrops flowered mid February. These guys flowered mid March and the Daffodils arrived during April. I guess my Dad would have said something like ‘blimey I’ve only just planted me Goosegogs‘. Goosegogs is Yorkshire for Gooseberries. Once a week we have school bagmageddon. Poor bairn (kid) is packed off lugging (carrying) two bursting at the seams bags. I wish someone would invent a Dr Who Tardis…

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3 Ways Kindness is Good for Our Kids – Parents Article

3 Ways Kindness is Good for Our KidsYour mom may have told you that it was the right thing to help others. Turns out, doing something nice to help others actually helps us, just as much as it helps the recipient. And maybe that old adage, “’tis better to give than to receive” is more accurate than we could have imagined. Here are three ways that kindness can help our kids: 1. Kindness Reduces StressStress is all around us. Our…

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The river – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Plenty of water flowing under the bridge. The water seemingly never ending. In the run up to Christmas I was worried that it would bring sadness and hurt. Anniversaries and big holidays do that. As it happened yes one or two wobbles but son seemed to enjoy himself. That’s the only thing that matters these days. So it’s late on Boxing Day and soon Christmas will have gone. Job done. I survived. But the flow of grief never stops. It’s…

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Pink – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Colour hanging grimly on in Yorkshire. This is an oasis surrounded by unremitting greyness. Truly dreadful weather day. The wind has been blowing horizontal rain at the back door all day. Currently on the third towel trying to keep the utility room dry. It’s a bit of a losing battle. Let’s hope it’s the only losing battle today. I went to vote straight after the morning’s school run. Let’s leave it as that. Tomorrow will either be a hopeful post…

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Obelisk – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The Obelisk at Castle Howard. It is over 300 years old and is 24m tall. It has the following inscription VIRTUTIS ET FORTUNAEJOHANNIS MARLBURIAE DUCISPATRIAE ET EUROPAEQUE DEFENSORISHOC SAXUMADMIRATIONI AC FAME SACRUMCAROLUS COMES CARLIOL POSUITANNO DOMINIMDCCXIV I think my translation is pretty accurate. Virtually everyday is wet here. If you have the misfortune to come here you will need three jumpers, extra thick wooly socks and two umbrellas. I could have been built somewhere warm and dry like Rome but…

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