parenting philosophy

Privacy for Children in The Age of “Influencers” – Foster Parents Article

I’ve been reading the story of a family that just breaks my heart. They very publicly crowdsourced funds for the international adoption of a child. They very publicly brought him home and talked in detail about his history. They very publicly shared about the struggles of raising him. They very publicly shared his multiple diagnoses. And this week they very publicly shared about how they could no longer parent him. They very publicly talked about how a “new forever family”…

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So Long to the Waking Nightmare that was Remote Learning – Foster Parents Article

I was trying to figure out why there’s been this familiar sinking feeling in my stomach for the last 8 weeks or so. This “remote learning” thing has been rough, but why did it feel like I’d experience this before? That’s when I realized I’ve been waking up every morning with that same feeling you get during the stress dream where you’re showing up to take a test in a class you’ve never been to before. You know that dream?…

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The Paper Chain of Quarantine Countdown Ideas – Foster Parents Article

The first day of “remote learning” was not a good one. I literally cried and I am not a crier. I yelled at my kids and I am NOT a yeller. The technology didn’t work right, kids didn’t understand the content and I had zero idea what they were supposed to be doing, we didn’t have a working schedule because I had no clue how much time to allot for this new learning experiment. . . It was bad. We…

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This is Not Homeschool. This is Survival School. – Foster Parents Article

Deciding to homeschool your kids is a huge decision. You think about what curriculum will work best for your kids and for your teaching style. You research. You talk to other people about it. If you have kids with medical or education or social skills needs or behavioral challenges, you think about your ability to meet those needs at home vs. the services they could receive through the school system. You rearrange your work schedules or other activities to make…

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Bring Your Kids to Church (radio interview) – Foster Parents Article

Maybe somebody out there has a really easy time getting through the morning insanity of church prep, then their kids sit so nicely and quietly during the service (hands folded, obviously) and afterwards the kids have these insightful conversations about all they learned. That is not my life. Yet. I’m still hoping. But we keep going. We practice what we want to become. Some weeks I think we’re almost there and some weeks I nearly cry on the way home…

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We Take Our Kids to Funerals – Foster Parents Article

We took our kids to a funeral recently. I was getting ready to explain to them how funerals typically go, until I realized they’ve actually been to quite a few funerals already. And every time we take them, I think about how much easier it would be if we left them at home. It is hard work to bring kids to a solemn service of undetermined length. The normal behaviors of kids– boisterous laughter, games of tag, loud questions– these…

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The Kind of Mom They Made Me | – Foster Parents Article

I have a serious issue with baking bread. In my mind the world is divided into two kinds of women:  those who bake bread and those who don’t. I have happily been in the “those who don’t” category for my entire adult life. Baking bread has always gone hand in hand in my mind with wearing denim jumpers and believing bowling alleys are the gates of hell. I’m not proud of these assumptions, I’m just telling you how strongly I…

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I’m Not Raising Root Bound Kids | – Foster Parents Article

I partly paid my way through college by working a job on the grounds crew. In the Georgia heat I learned about the pain of fire ant bites, the strength of kudzu that can only be hacked back with a machete, and I learned that sometimes plants can become root bound. I have always loved gardening since I was little, but I rarely knew what I was doing. On that college grounds crew I began to add wisdom to my…

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The One Thing Young Kids Need to Know About Sex | – Foster Parents Article

I currently have four kids in elementary school from Kindergarten to fifth grade. My kids have not experienced any sexual abuse (to my knowledge), we have been very careful about any potential porn exposure, and we closely monitor their involvement with pop culture through music, movies, books, and even commercials. While we might seem to err on the side of overly sheltering them, what we have also done is be very open with our kids about sex. We have told…

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