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Enjoy the Joys! • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

As we get closer to the end of our first season, we find ourselves reflecting on the role of parenting being a tough one. Tough yes, but so worth it as well. Our research tidbits from one of the largest studies of the joys and problems in child-rearing revealed that by and large, parents get what they hope for out of parenting. In fact, the study also reported that parents reported twice as many joys as problems. On our tough…

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How To Talk with Kids about COVID-19 • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

We are parenting in an unprecedented time, and that means our kids have unprecedented questions and concerns. Knowing how much to tell them is seriously tough. What is appropriate to tell my three year old? And what am I supposed to tell my school-ager who wants to go over to a friend’s house? And how do I talk with my teenager about all rumors they have heard floating around? Well at The Science of Parenting we focus on sharing research-based…

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It’s Never Too Late to Set a New Year’s Resolution • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

As I was looking forward to what’s to come with Science of Parenting while trying to think of a blog to write today, I started to look at one of those lists of “National __ month” topics. At the top of that list, it noted that in Ancient Rome, March was the start of the new year because of the spring equinox (an interesting historical fact that I did not know!). As someone who hasn’t done too well on my…

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When Should I Allow My Child To Start Dating? • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

In the month of February, we are looking at relationships. We’ve looked at our co-parenting relationships, and now we want to look at when our kids are looking at dating! Last week we looked at having realistic expectations, and now we want to know about the age-appropriateness of dating. This is a common question for parents – so let’s look with a Research & Reality lens. RESEARCH: “Kids younger than age 14 years do not have the social skills needed…

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Our Parenting Relationship Affects The Kids • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

Last week I shared about my own relationship with my partner, and how it can be hard with young kids to find time to focus on the “couple relationship”… And I don’t think I am the only one! Let’s review this with a Research & Reality lens: RESEARCH – Well, the research is clear — the quality of adult couple relationships and positive parenting practices are connected to healthy child outcomes. So the relationship I have with my partner affects…

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Catch Them Doing Good! • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

It is the start of a New Year, which can mean, as a family we are trying to find resolutions or goals for our family to work toward! Parents who stay busy keeping up with their children know that schedules, chores and activities can create chaos if we don’t plan for how we are going to manage all the responsibilities. Perhaps one goal for the year, is to catch our family members doing well! When children come home from school…

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Expressing Appreciation with Thank You Notes • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

The holidays have passed, and now is the perfect time to get busy giving thanks to the many people who helped to make the holiday a special time for all of us. As adults, we know how good it feels to be appreciated. Teaching other family members how to express appreciation is truly a gift that will keep on giving as the years go by! Giving thanks can take many forms: writing a note, talking by telephone, listening and sharing…

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Help we are all inside -TOGETHER! Stop. Breathe. Talk. • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

As winter begins, those of us here at the Science of Parenting are snuggled deep in our blankets and sweaters. Realizing that most of you probably are too, we decided that it might be a good time to revisit the idea of Stop. Breathe. Talk. With winter break upon us, a multitude of people inhabiting enclosed spaces and perhaps even getting on each other’s nerves. Full disclosure my children are all at home and currently not speaking to each other…

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Consider Giving Kids Less Stuff, More Time during Holidays • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

Although the holidays can be a season of giving, sometimes the focus shifts to a season of getting, or so it may seem from a child’s perspective. It’s OK to give gifts to our children. We all want to see our children happy, and as parents we give from the goodness of our hearts. However, it’s easy to overdo it, especially around the holidays. This can become a pattern, and before we know it, we’re overindulging our children – giving them…

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Well-being During the Holidays • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

As I look at the calendar and think about the upcoming opportunities to celebrate with family and friends, I can feel a bit overwhelmed. The thought of keeping a clean house, purchasing food, and preparing for the many holiday meals that are shared reminds me that perhaps I can shake the overwhelm by practicing some self-care and goal setting.  Are you someone that makes lists of the things that you must accomplish? A to-do list is something that helps us…

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