miscarriage

A Man’s guide to Miscarriage – Parenting Twins Article

Miscarriage is often spoken about by women. Of course, women endure the physical pain of passing an ‘inviable foetus’. But the mental pain is shared by both mother and father. Here, Papa Pukka speaks of miscarriage from a male perspective. Do not say, ‘at least we can get pregnant’. What you’re really saying is ‘I did my bit,’ even if you don’t realise it. Do not suggest that, ‘it’s kind of like a heavy period’ because it happened in the first…

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I’ll Pretend | My Life with Identical Twins – Parenting Twins Article

Every day people ask how I’m doing “since”…you know.  Since we lost that baby.  Since the surgery. Since I still don’t know what’s going on with me. I’ll pretend and say fine because that’s what people want to hear.  They want to think that this stuff happens (to other people, not to them, of course) and that they get over it because that’s what people should do. Then they want to talk to me about their friend, sibling, self that’s…

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The Best of News becomes the Worst of Times – Parenting Twins Article

In June, my husband and I found out we were pregnant.  I wrote the linked post on August 11 at 12 weeks pregnant. Twenty days later, at 15 weeks pregnant, I found out the baby’s little heart had stopped sometime around 14 weeks. This is my third pregnancy loss. There’s not much to say.  There’s a ton to say.  I don’t know how to say it. My pregnancies keep making it longer.  7 weeks, 10 weeks, 14 weeks.  So next…

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