Memories

Break – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

A little bit of a break between the rain clouds. Apparently the sun has been replaced by the moon. I was looking at the view and getting some much needed fresh air when a thought crossed my mind. A strange thought began to rattle around in my brain. I love astronomy. As a kid I so wanted to be an astronomer. As most kids wanted to be the new Pele or Bobby Moore, I wanted to be just like the…

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The forecast – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The weather forecast is saying it’s clear blue sky and no rain today. The clouds and the showers would beg to differ. Another inaccurate weather forecast. It’s clearly the forecasters fault that it’s raining …. It always is. I remember going to a Test Match (Cricket) between England and India. It had been a good weather forecast. But it was chucking it down and play was suspended. With perfect timing the main TV weatherman came onto the pitch to do…

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Busy – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Running round the small garden for what seems like the millionth time and desperately trying to find an excuse to stop for a few seconds. Thankfully a yellow rose is a suitable excuse for a photo pit stop. I’m sat writing this during another brief day pit stop. Son is having a wander round the garden, dreaming and working on what we do next this Sunday afternoon. It will be a short pit stop. Maybe 30 minutes at most. It’s…

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Friendships – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Pesky school played that trick on me again. Son is all set up for the next school at home lesson. THEN at the start of the lesson the teacher asks for work to be done which requires a plasticine model to be made. As we don’t have a fully functioning stationary and supplies cupboard, an urgent search of draws and boxes took place. Eventually a large ball of old Blu Tack was found. That will just have to do. But…

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Judging yourself through your grief – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

I am so thrilled that Katie and Evee have been so kind enough to write another post for me. I know from all the comments that the last one they penned was so loved. Please checkout their blog (The Grief Reality), it’s such a wonderful source of love, human spirit and hope. You might also come across another post from me there today as well. I know how tough this post would have been to write for them. I have…

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Leave it – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

When we first moved into our home, my sister bought us two plants as house warming presents. 18 years later they are still going strong. The red one doesn’t flower for long but it’s just springing into life. It’s quite amazing that after 18 years both plants are still going strong. I don’t have a great track record with plants. I remember my partner for a joke buying me a plant which was described as – the worlds most resilient….will…

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Random memories – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Today’s mobile phone, out of focus, wildlife photo. Another bird flying. Another night and another bizarre dream. An LP (yes vinyl) was being released and I wanted to make sure I got a copy. So I camped out overnight outside a small record shop. During the increasingly wet and cold night the public telephone (just a few paces away) kept ringing. When I picked it up I could hear my partner at the other end, but she couldn’t hear me.…

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Stages – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

One of my first records I purchased was ‘All the worlds a stage’ by the rock legends, Rush. Shakespeare wrote that ‘All the worlds a stage’. Don’t worry I’m not going all thespian on you. But I must admit I fancy my chances these days of doing a mighty fine Richard III stage performance. Why is the Stagecoach Bus always two hours late when I try to catch it. Just watched wrestling on the TV which is staged. So many…

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Grieving during quarantine – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

As much as I like writing (well my version of writing), my favourite part of blogging is getting to read other blogs. They can make you laugh, cry, think and fill you with renewed hope. One of my favourite blogs is by Katie and Evee. It really captured me as like my son, grief often hits when we are far too young. They talk about it so beautifully. It’s grief with hope, loss with the desire to live again. I’m…

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Masterpiece – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

A bit of yellow always warms the heart at this time of year. I remember my Dad would take great pride in the small but perfectly formed patches of daffodils he would carefully foster around the garden. It’s funny how certain images of my childhood house are so etched on my mind. The outside toilet was a delight in winter. The small cupboard under the stairs that scared the pants out of me. The huge coal bunker at the back.…

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