Martyn’s Thoughts

Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: Our Accessible Challenge – Single Dad, Parents Article

Disabilities, accessibility, equality and general acceptance has been part of my life for the last 24 years.When I was first diagnosed at 13 I was more active and “able” and I could walk unaided.Yet, even then I was facing adversity against what I could or couldn’t do.I was diagnosed halfway through Secondary school. The campus spread over 9 different buildings of which over half of those my classes were on the 2nd or 3rd floor.I couldn’t at the time use…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: Choosing the battles – Single Dad, Parents Article

Just before Christmas we received a letter to say that we have officially been signed off from Social Services.It was happy news for us all.These last 12 months have been hellish.We contacted Social Services to help with behaviour that we were experiencing at home. We tried everything we could for 2 years and nothing was helping.I tried everything that I had learnt through Early Childhood Studies, Child Psychology and techniques I’ve learnt through being a Primary Teacher. Yet, nothing worked.What…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: A Spoonful of Fear – Single Dad, Parents Article

I overheard a child the other day talking about his dad to his sibling.He started by saying “There’s a difference between mum and dad when they tell you off”.Growing up we had the “wait until your father gets home” repeatedly said to us when, in fact, the one we were primarily worried about upsetting was mum.Dad was the laid back one.Mum was a classic 80s parent. She was the woman who would fight your corner against the teacher who was…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: Generosity – Single Dad, Parents Article

I’m stubborn and proud.These qualities were drummed into me as much as manners were.When I first started having health issues and the first signs of Muscular Dystrophy started showing upon my body I was already installed with these qualities.Despite this, the first prognosis for my health condition was not good. At the age of 13 my parents were told that I wouldn’t reach my 16th birthday.A few years pass and the prognosis extended to 18. Subsequently, it was drummed into…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: Falling Short – Single Dad, Parents Article

I’ve said it so many times but the best thing to ever happen to me as a person and as a parent was to separate from the boys mum.Don’t get me wrong; this isn’t a reflection of her or our marriage but more as me as a person.8 years ago I wasn’t the man that I am today.A lot has changed.Separating from the boys mum, going through a divorce, losing my mum suddenly, moving home several times, selling previously owned…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: Reclaiming me – Single Dad, Parents Article

This year has been exceedingly hard for us all.The introduction of social services was not the welcomed help that we all expected.I have worked with social services as a teacher and as an art therapist so I have known the good that they can do.After almost 2 years of extreme and difficult behaviour we needed help. All of the other avenues we went down were closed off from us as they were all deemed either parenting issues or a blended…

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When Disability becomes a Problem – Single Dad, Parents Article

Becoming a single parent was one of the biggest challenges of my life but to be disabled and somehow manage was something that no one could ever prepare me for.Although I was living with this disability and mentally being aware of what “may” happen with its degenerative properties it didn’t occur to me that one day I wouldn’t be able to cope. If anything I thought “I will show my children that there are more to disabled people and disability…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: When you’re an Alcoholic – Single Dad, Parents Article

Addiction isn’t something that disappears.I was having a conversation the other night about being an alcoholic.With Social Services involved the fact I am an alcoholic is something I haven’t hidden.I know a lot of people may have kept it to themselves but it isn’t something I’m ashamed of.The problem arises in the term “alcoholic”.People like to use other terms like Ex-Alcoholic and Recovering alcoholic.With the freedom of admittance my addiction has been used as part of my character assassination.I must…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: It stops with me! – Single Dad, Parents Article

We had a phone call recently that’s not only been niggling at me for a couple of months but it was an outcome that has haunted me for the last 10 years.It wasn’t long before we knew we were expecting William that we found out that my health condition had been misdiagnosed.I had gone 12 years with a misdiagnosed condition; I now had Facioscapulohumeral Muscular Dystrophy.A genetic condition that would eat away at my muscles.This condition gets its name from…

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Inside Martyn’s Thoughts: Mental Health and MEGAN – Single Dad, Parents Article

Since July I have been attending a new mental health support group.MEGAN CIC is a local group in Medway, Kent.Medway Engagement Group And Network was established in 2009 and became an independent community interest company 4 years later.Their aim is to provide a voice for mental health users whilst providing opportunities for people who have or have had mental health issues. In their groups and sessions they allow you to share views and experiences of mental health services as well…

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