Marriage

Love in the Time of Coronavirus – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/CBS46.com) So I’ve been thinking about this virus going around. You know the one. I’m scheduled to turn 41 later this month, and near as I can tell, this is the first real-time global health crisis during my lifetime with the potential to affect everyone. The Covid-19 coronavirus doesn’t care how much money you have. It doesn’t care which language you speak nor what country you call home. It doesn’t care about your age or race or religious beliefs or…

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Taking the Wheel Vs. Destroying Our Marriages on Autopilot – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Forbes) The word ‘habits’—at least for me—conjures images of working out or smoking or biting my fingernails. People talk about developing good study habits or good work habits as a means of succeeding in school or in their career pursuits. I never thought about habits as having any bearing on my marriage or any of my interpersonal relationships. But is has occurred to me recently—as I continue to work on myself, and as I continue to work with people trying…

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The Idea That Would Have Saved My Marriage and Might Save Yours – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Redbubble) The reasons more than half of all romantic relationships (including marriage) fail are not obvious to most people. If you need proof, just ask your current or former relationship partner to share their beliefs about what you experience—good and bad—in your relationship, (or your reasons for wanting to leave your former partner). I’m willing to bet that eight—probably nine—times out of 10, their answer will fall well short of accurately describing your experiences, highlighting all of the ways they…

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Harry & Meghan, A Marriage of Compromise – Single Mum, Parents Article

North America is better than the Tower, marginally. Harry and Meghan Mountbatten (or Sussex or Windsor or Wales or whatever they choose, probably not Markle) will not be using their HRH titles in the future. They may even have to give up their rights to the Royal branding that they’ve patented.I am happy to announce, because this was one chutzpa too far, that they will be paying back the £2.4 million that it cost the tax-payers to refurbish their home…

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Save Your Marriage Using the Monster-Under-the-Bed Theory – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/John Lewis) Imagine getting a phone call. You answer. A stranger on the other end of the line identifies his or herself as a law enforcement agent. You feel a little flutter of anxiety. The law enforcement official names someone you love dearly. Maybe it’s the name of a family member. “There’s been an accident. I’m so sorry. Would you be willing to come downtown to identify the body?” Shock. Disbelief. Disoriented. Maybe the most unspeakably painful feeling that you…

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Where to Find Solutions to Your Relationship Problems – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Tubefilter.com) The best place to look for solutions — to any significant problem you may face; not just relationship problems — are in the non-obvious places. The places you haven’t looked. The places you wouldn’t think to look. And that’s the rub. It’s counter-intuitive to think of things we don’t naturally or instinctively think of. It’s sort of impossible to notice or know about things we can’t see. One relationship partner’s failure to notice something (or many things) meaningful to…

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My Husband Left Me For Another Woman, Now What? – Single Mum, Parents Article

A few years ago I wrote a blog about why a married man cannot love his mistress (which you can read here) and it went VIRAL. That post attracted so many women wondering why my husband left me for another woman. I could not predict the virality of that post because someone who was messing with a married man requested me to write it and I thought to myself who could not see through the trickery of this. But apparently,…

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Break Toxic Communication Habits with The STFU Method – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/The Cheap Place) Actor and comedian Denis Leary has a bit in his hilarious 1992 stand-up act No Cure for Cancer where he jokes about developing a revolutionary new form of therapy that involves him curing his patients by angrily telling them to shut the fuck up. Leary’s kidding. He’s telling absurd jokes to elicit laughter. And while I use profanity infinitely less often than early-90’s Leary, it occurs to me that I have spent the past several months offering…

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November Life | The Glorious Mundane – Foster Parents Article

The past few months of our lives seem to have flown by. I don’t know if it’s the ages of our kids, the crazy moving situation that we went through, or just life…but it has seemed like we are moving at a million miles an hour. I am almost looking forward to the slower winter months that come after the holiday (although as always, I am dreading the dreary cold and snow!). We started off the mont with our incredibly…

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Like Two Sparrows in a Hurricane – Foster Parents Article

I’m sitting on my couch. There are tears trickling down my cheeks. My three kids are playing with many multiple toys all around me. I’m holding a jar of canned goods in my hand, trying to muster up the energy to find a box to put them in. A song comes on the Spotify playlist. It’s about two sparrows in a hurricane. The tears fall harder and faster. That is exactly how I feel. My neighbor walks past my window…

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