Marriage

Week 39 Around Here {2019} – Parenting Twins Article

{Rock Paper Scissors at the vet with Jack} Painting… two of our three bathrooms on Saturday while Josh had the kids at the land with his parents and brother.  I started with the downstairs bathroom which had been a color called pumpkin marshmallow.  I painted it a soothing green-ish color called Breezeway by Behr, and I love the result.  When we paint the trim, it’s going to look really sharp in there. Then I moved on to our master bedroom,…

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How to Respond to Your Emotional Spouse Without Making Things Worse – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/cristianobaraghini.it) More often than not, when my wife reacted emotionally to anything—something I said or did; something on TV; something that happened at work, whatever—my gut reaction was to think of her response as an overreaction. This was not me intentionally trying to demean or disrespect her. This was my honest, natural, and I believed—objective—reaction to whatever she was saying or doing that I perceived to be disproportionate to whatever triggered the emotional response. I was using commonplace, relationship-killing invalidation…

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Must Women Leave Men to Get Them to Change? – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/David Colarusso)“Would you have changed if she had not left you?” Within an hour of answering this exact question in the comments of How to Change Your Shitty Husband, someone else sent an email asking the same question, and whether I’d written an article about it before. I have answered this question many times—but I think thoughtlessly and too cynically. Maybe because I thought the question was actually about me. Maybe sometimes it is. Wives and girlfriends, I think, are…

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How to Change Your Shitty Husband – Single Dad, Parents Article

Image/”Change Ahead” artwork by Ed Myers “I fucking hated you,” she said. “I hated you because you’re the guy who made a damn name for himself because he was a self-proclaimed ‘shitty’ husband, which he was. The adoration and praise you would get from women for telling the damn truth about your ignorance in your relationship nauseated me.” … Today would have been my 15th wedding anniversary. If I wasn’t divorced. Instead, it’s the sixth anniversary that isn’t. Things changed.…

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Adding Spice to Your Love Life Through Routine and Predictability – Single Dad, Parents Article

“We almost died like 15 times throughout this movie, Sandra. We should totally go home and do it.” – Keanu Reeves (Image/whodatedwho.com) Have you ever been an audience member during a speaking presentation or concert where the audience is asked to do something to participate—like share something to the group, or clap, or sing? You remember that feeling? Yeah, you do. I’ve always hated that shit. It triggers whatever big red Discomfort Button that lives in the invisible parts of…

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How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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Drifting Apart: How Bad Things Happen Even When it Feels Like Nothing Happened – Single Dad, Parents Article

Did you almost cry but pretend like you weren’t because crying over a volleyball feels REALLY stupid when you watched our boy Tom lose his only friend in the movie “Cast Away”? Whatever. That’s what I did. (Image/newsmov.biz) I almost wrote something outrageous about how Galileo Galilei’s and Isaac Newton’s first law of motion was effing up relationships. The first law of motion—also called the “law of inertia”—states that a body or object at rest remains at rest, and that…

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Obvious Signs You’re In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship & Don’t Know It – Single Mum, Parents Article

If you are involved in an emotionally abusive relationship then know that your mental well being, how you feel about yourself, and the types of relationships you feel you deserve are at risk.  I think often times we can be with emotionally abusive men and not even know it. I know I didn’t. Not at first. I can speak from experience, I was with an emotionally abusive man particularly my son’s father. I do not think that I realized it…

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‘We Regret to Inform You’: A Story About Marriage and Book-Publishing Failure – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Now and There) I felt that little jolt of hope and nervous excitement in my chest when I saw the unopened email and recognized who it was from. Please let this be it. It wasn’t it. “Dear Matt. You’re not good enough. I’m not interested. Good luck.” Damn it, I thought. I can’t believe this is happening again. … There was a lot riding on the first major non-marriage promise I’d made to my wife, because I didn’t know if…

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