Marriage

How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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Drifting Apart: How Bad Things Happen Even When it Feels Like Nothing Happened – Single Dad, Parents Article

Did you almost cry but pretend like you weren’t because crying over a volleyball feels REALLY stupid when you watched our boy Tom lose his only friend in the movie “Cast Away”? Whatever. That’s what I did. (Image/newsmov.biz) I almost wrote something outrageous about how Galileo Galilei’s and Isaac Newton’s first law of motion was effing up relationships. The first law of motion—also called the “law of inertia”—states that a body or object at rest remains at rest, and that…

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Obvious Signs You’re In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship & Don’t Know It – Single Mum, Parents Article

If you are involved in an emotionally abusive relationship then know that your mental well being, how you feel about yourself, and the types of relationships you feel you deserve are at risk.  I think often times we can be with emotionally abusive men and not even know it. I know I didn’t. Not at first. I can speak from experience, I was with an emotionally abusive man particularly my son’s father. I do not think that I realized it…

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‘We Regret to Inform You’: A Story About Marriage and Book-Publishing Failure – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Now and There) I felt that little jolt of hope and nervous excitement in my chest when I saw the unopened email and recognized who it was from. Please let this be it. It wasn’t it. “Dear Matt. You’re not good enough. I’m not interested. Good luck.” Damn it, I thought. I can’t believe this is happening again. … There was a lot riding on the first major non-marriage promise I’d made to my wife, because I didn’t know if…

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Week 20 Around Here {2019} – Parenting Twins Article

{That time Carly “helped” carry the watermelon} Enjoying… movie night with the kids last weekend, with homemade pizza & cookies. Yum!!! Loving… my Mother’s Day.  Josh went grocery shopping for me (bless him!) and made dinner for us all.  The kids made me cards and Wyatt brought me a coaster he had made in class.  He drew a mug on it with my favorite colors (yellow & blue) and wrote “Best Mom Ever” on it. The sweetheart.I got to spend…

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How the Color Purple is Harming Your Relationships – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Science) Pop quiz: If your relationship problems are decreasing mathematically and your romantic partner is observably adjusting his or her behavior in an honest attempt to connect with you emotionally, but your brain and subsequent emotions are telling you otherwise, is your relationship actually improving? But Matt! What a silly question! If my partner were lovingly changing their behavior for my benefit and the benefit of our relationship, my mind and heart would NEVER tell me otherwise! Awww. It’s cute…

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Podcast Interview: The Mindset You Must Change if You Want a Great Marriage – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/thelifestyleplaybook.com) I know what you’re probably not thinking: I really want to listen to Matt blather on about conflict in relationships! And because you’re not thinking that, this is me encouraging you to start thinking about it because clearly I’m an attention-whore. Therapist and author Lesli Doares, because she’s kind and gracious, invites me onto her podcast Happily Ever After is Just the Beginning every so often to jam about relationship stuff. (You can also check out Lesli’s The Hero Husband Project…

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What to Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Respect You – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Respect360.org) Oh no. You feel disrespected by your wife. This is definitely bad for your marriage and a poor example for any children you might have. You’ve done the best possible thing you could have in this situation, and I hope you’ll choose to feel good about it. You’ve asked great questions: Why doesn’t my wife respect me? What do I do about it? But it’s possible you’ve missed one: Are my feelings about my wife’s respect level for me…

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Would You Leave Your Spouse Over Dirty Dishes?: A Lesson on Conflict Management – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/HuffPost) We pulled into our parking space in Florida’s version of the “happiest place on earth,” and all of my insides were knotted up. In my left pocket was the most expensive thing I’d ever bought—a pretty pear-shaped diamond engagement ring I’d been secretly paying off for months. This felt like the place. Disney World’s Magic Kingdom. She loved Disney. This felt like the time. The Fourth of July. She loved fireworks. I wasn’t tense because I was planning a…

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