The Protection of Sunscreen | Herding Chickens and Other Adventures in Foster and Adoptive Care – Foster Parents Article

I have always been white. There was never a time when I went out into the sun without first slathering on a layer of vaguely coconut flavored suntan lotion. When I was heading to the beach I remembered the delicacy of my pale skin. It was the only time I actively thought about the color of my skin and made preparations because of it. Otherwise, it never occurs to me to remember that I am white before I leave the…

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The Push of Gravity | Herding Chickens and Other Adventures in Foster and Adoptive Care – Foster Parents Article

Maybe I’m not as cut out for this whole thing as I imagined. Years ago I felt like a kind of warrior, fighting against past traumas alongside my kids. These days I am battling my own trauma and trying to make it through as best as I can. It isn’t as if things are terribly bad or difficult right now. They’re not. At least, not in the way they used to be. Violent meltdowns where I’d get punched, kicked, bitten…

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What We Take For Granted – Foster Parents Article

The cheerful bubbling of my radiator on a cold New England morning. The warmth of my husband’s chest against my back in the middle of a wintery New England night. The lucidity of children grounded in this reality. The things we take for granted. Luke was admitted back into the hospital this week. More complications of kidney failure are plaguing him. The latest complication was stomach pain. This is in addition to insomnia, short-term memory loss, always feeling frigid, persistent…

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Snow Day Chaos | Herding Chickens and Other Adventures in Foster and Adoptive Care – Foster Parents Article

How many EMTs can fit in my bedroom? Ten. The number is 10. Counting first responders took on an urgent importance in the way that benign distractions sometimes do in the face of a crisis. A day that began with the promise of a fresh start turned out to be a very bad day for Luke. Our snow day was lost to the chaos. As a type 1 diabetic, Luke’s been managing his condition for decades. I’ve never seen his…

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Let Them Be Little | New Day Foster Home – Foster Parents Article

Our children have gone through so much in their short lives, way more than any child should have to go through. They know the feeling of abandonment and have spent too many nights in hospitals.  Because of their past is it even more important to let them be little. To give them normal childhood experiences that are full of joy and exploration.  It is even more important to show them how loved they are and to teach them how to…

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Babies in the Grass | New Day Foster Home – Foster Parents Article

Summer days are made for exploring outside. Exploring in the grass is even better. Our boys are learning to love the grass! Sometimes it feels a little funny against their toes, but it can also be so much fun to crawl in, and there are so many things to discover. Unlike her ‘brothers’ Kelly wasn’t too sure about sitting in the grass, but she loved the solution we found for her! I think a summer full of playing in the…

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