How to Respond to Your Emotional Spouse Without Making Things Worse – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/cristianobaraghini.it) More often than not, when my wife reacted emotionally to anything—something I said or did; something on TV; something that happened at work, whatever—my gut reaction was to think of her response as an overreaction. This was not me intentionally trying to demean or disrespect her. This was my honest, natural, and I believed—objective—reaction to whatever she was saying or doing that I perceived to be disproportionate to whatever triggered the emotional response. I was using commonplace, relationship-killing invalidation…

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Must Women Leave Men to Get Them to Change? – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/David Colarusso)“Would you have changed if she had not left you?” Within an hour of answering this exact question in the comments of How to Change Your Shitty Husband, someone else sent an email asking the same question, and whether I’d written an article about it before. I have answered this question many times—but I think thoughtlessly and too cynically. Maybe because I thought the question was actually about me. Maybe sometimes it is. Wives and girlfriends, I think, are…

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How to Change Your Shitty Husband – Single Dad, Parents Article

Image/”Change Ahead” artwork by Ed Myers “I fucking hated you,” she said. “I hated you because you’re the guy who made a damn name for himself because he was a self-proclaimed ‘shitty’ husband, which he was. The adoration and praise you would get from women for telling the damn truth about your ignorance in your relationship nauseated me.” … Today would have been my 15th wedding anniversary. If I wasn’t divorced. Instead, it’s the sixth anniversary that isn’t. Things changed.…

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Adding Spice to Your Love Life Through Routine and Predictability – Single Dad, Parents Article

“We almost died like 15 times throughout this movie, Sandra. We should totally go home and do it.” – Keanu Reeves (Image/whodatedwho.com) Have you ever been an audience member during a speaking presentation or concert where the audience is asked to do something to participate—like share something to the group, or clap, or sing? You remember that feeling? Yeah, you do. I’ve always hated that shit. It triggers whatever big red Discomfort Button that lives in the invisible parts of…

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How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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Drifting Apart: How Bad Things Happen Even When it Feels Like Nothing Happened – Single Dad, Parents Article

Did you almost cry but pretend like you weren’t because crying over a volleyball feels REALLY stupid when you watched our boy Tom lose his only friend in the movie “Cast Away”? Whatever. That’s what I did. (Image/newsmov.biz) I almost wrote something outrageous about how Galileo Galilei’s and Isaac Newton’s first law of motion was effing up relationships. The first law of motion—also called the “law of inertia”—states that a body or object at rest remains at rest, and that…

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It Was Instant Love – Lifesong for Orphans – Foster Parents Article

Love at first sight. It’s the stuff of fairy tales and romantic comedies… right? Believe in it or not, nearly all parents talk about this feeling. When their son or daughter is born, many birth parents mention the instant love they had for their child. And the same often holds true for adoptive parents upon seeing their son or daughter for the first time. It was certainly the case for William and Paige, who met their daughter less than 24…

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How the Color Purple is Harming Your Relationships – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Science) Pop quiz: If your relationship problems are decreasing mathematically and your romantic partner is observably adjusting his or her behavior in an honest attempt to connect with you emotionally, but your brain and subsequent emotions are telling you otherwise, is your relationship actually improving? But Matt! What a silly question! If my partner were lovingly changing their behavior for my benefit and the benefit of our relationship, my mind and heart would NEVER tell me otherwise! Awww. It’s cute…

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Becoming A Foster Carer | Foster Care Fortnight – Foster Parents Article

Posted on 16th May 2019 by Beth Owen BECOMING A FOSTER CARER If you’ve clicked on this article then it probably means you’ve thought long and hard about becoming a foster carer. You will have talked to your family and friends to seek their support and endorsement. Well done! Reaching this milestone is significant and you are already on your way to making a difference to young people’s lives. Below, we have described our process for approving foster carers. Each…

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