The Idea That Would Have Saved My Marriage and Might Save Yours – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Redbubble) The reasons more than half of all romantic relationships (including marriage) fail are not obvious to most people. If you need proof, just ask your current or former relationship partner to share their beliefs about what you experience—good and bad—in your relationship, (or your reasons for wanting to leave your former partner). I’m willing to bet that eight—probably nine—times out of 10, their answer will fall well short of accurately describing your experiences, highlighting all of the ways they…

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I Love Being a Foster Parent – Foster Parents Article

Posted on February 11, 2020 by Plummer Youth Promise   Sometimes people think I’m crazy for being a foster parent. People ask me why I choose to bring a youth into my home who has so many needs and who presents so many challenges. They ask how I manage to hang in there through some very difficult times. These are tough questions, but I always come back to a one-word answer, love.   I love seeing my eleven-year-old foster daughter…

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‘Mum has a boyfriend…’ – broke-single-dad – Single Dad, Parents Article

This one is a mixed bag! strap in, keep up and enjoy! The days between me last seeing the cubs and my weekend had dragged. The Thursday pick-up couldn’t come soon enough. The after-school club collection was the usual long hugs and excited storytelling. The immediacy of filling in the last seven days crammed the next few minutes. Youngest however maintained his usual reserved stance. How was school? ‘Good’ What was your most favourite part? ‘Some of it’ What was…

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Snowdrops in heaven – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The first Snowdrops of the year have surfaced after a couple of days of sunshine. On the 26th January 2019 I blogged Was a bit worried that the pup had destroyed the gardens entire snowdrop population. But at last in one corner …. My partner will be happy. On the 25th February 2018 Walks in February would always involve my partner stopping frequently to admire the patches of snowdrops. I must admit I never really paid much attention to them.…

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Save Your Marriage Using the Monster-Under-the-Bed Theory – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/John Lewis) Imagine getting a phone call. You answer. A stranger on the other end of the line identifies his or herself as a law enforcement agent. You feel a little flutter of anxiety. The law enforcement official names someone you love dearly. Maybe it’s the name of a family member. “There’s been an accident. I’m so sorry. Would you be willing to come downtown to identify the body?” Shock. Disbelief. Disoriented. Maybe the most unspeakably painful feeling that you…

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Where to Find Solutions to Your Relationship Problems – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Tubefilter.com) The best place to look for solutions — to any significant problem you may face; not just relationship problems — are in the non-obvious places. The places you haven’t looked. The places you wouldn’t think to look. And that’s the rub. It’s counter-intuitive to think of things we don’t naturally or instinctively think of. It’s sort of impossible to notice or know about things we can’t see. One relationship partner’s failure to notice something (or many things) meaningful to…

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The river – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Plenty of water flowing under the bridge. The water seemingly never ending. In the run up to Christmas I was worried that it would bring sadness and hurt. Anniversaries and big holidays do that. As it happened yes one or two wobbles but son seemed to enjoy himself. That’s the only thing that matters these days. So it’s late on Boxing Day and soon Christmas will have gone. Job done. I survived. But the flow of grief never stops. It’s…

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Break Toxic Communication Habits with The STFU Method – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/The Cheap Place) Actor and comedian Denis Leary has a bit in his hilarious 1992 stand-up act No Cure for Cancer where he jokes about developing a revolutionary new form of therapy that involves him curing his patients by angrily telling them to shut the fuck up. Leary’s kidding. He’s telling absurd jokes to elicit laughter. And while I use profanity infinitely less often than early-90’s Leary, it occurs to me that I have spent the past several months offering…

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Waterfall – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Although England does do an awful lot of water it’s not blessed with that many truly epic waterfalls. But we do have the occasional spectacular one. High Force in Teasdale. The Falls are about an hours drive from us. We haven’t been since our world changed. We had planned to go there as part of our school holiday road trip. But as I was packing up the picnic Dad I’m not sure I’m ready to go there yet. I can…

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How to Respond to Your Emotional Spouse Without Making Things Worse – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/cristianobaraghini.it) More often than not, when my wife reacted emotionally to anything—something I said or did; something on TV; something that happened at work, whatever—my gut reaction was to think of her response as an overreaction. This was not me intentionally trying to demean or disrespect her. This was my honest, natural, and I believed—objective—reaction to whatever she was saying or doing that I perceived to be disproportionate to whatever triggered the emotional response. I was using commonplace, relationship-killing invalidation…

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