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Debunking 5 Common Myths About Bullying – Parents Article

In recent years, the rise of cyber bullying has drawn attention to the many diverse forms bullying can take. At the same time, however, parents and teachers remain under-informed about many aspects of this harmful behaviour pattern. Not only does this make it more difficult to understand the trauma many children and teens endure, it limits our ability to give them helpful advice. This post is a follow-up to my post on preventing bullying published last year.Understanding Bullying: What It…

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The Trouble With Boredom or How to Help the Under-Engaged Child – Parents Article

With schools and extra-curriculum activities being completely shut down to prevent the spread of coronavirus, our children are locked at home and have to go through major adjustments. While talking to parents, I learned that most of them quickly gave up on screen time restrictions as they don’t want to hear constant complaints from their children about how bored they are. Yet, boredom is rarely caused by a lack of things to do.Have you ever wondered why some children can…

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How To Nurture Your Child’s Inner Optimist – Parents Article

Failure is a normal part of life, but for a young child encountering it for the first time it can feel absolutely crushing. Most parents are already familiar with just how intensely kids experience defeat: they’ve seen their child refuse to ever ride a bike again after falling off a few times, for example, or heard her call herself “terrible” at sports after being unable to hit a baseball.             While it’s perfectly normal for children to hit a “wall”…

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A Guide To Authoritative Parenting – Parents Article

            For decades, parents have argued over which approach to child-rearing works best: Should parents fill the role of strict disciplinarians, or should they allow their children to learn their own lessons freely? Does authoritarian parenting beget rebellion, or is it overly lenient parenting that really encourages children to act out uncontrollably?            If you’re caught in the middle of this debate and unsure how to proceed, you’ll be glad to know there’s a sensible middle-ground. Since the mid-1960s, one parenting…

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8 Tips For Parents On How To Prevent Bullying In Middle School – Parents Article

            Though it may seem contradictory, the sudden increase in social awareness that middle schoolers experience makes them more prone to bullying. Children in this age group are so hyper-sensitive to social dynamics that they frequently become highly reactive, competitive, and critical. This isn’t a personality flaw; instead, it’s a sign that the brain’s limbic system is operating in overdrive. This causes teens to take uncalculated risks, aggressively seek social rewards, and experience emotions with particular intensity. It is, in…

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How To Raise Compassionate Children In A Dangerous World – Parents Article

As most parents realize all too well, we’re living in violent times. From gang and terrorist activity to the prevalence of violence in video games and TV shows, everywhere we look today we’re confronted with aggression. Understandably, many parents find themselves worrying that it may not be possible to raise caring, compassionate children within such an environment.            While it’s true that, as a parent, you can’t protect your child from all of the negative influences he (or she) will encounter,…

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How To Moderate The Desire To Control Your Defiant Child? – Parents Article

            Other than seeing harm come to their children, what’s every parent’s worst nightmare? For most, it’s feeling out of control—that helpless, sickening feeling that arises when a child simply refuses to comply, no matter what you do.            The majority of parents only have to deal with defiant behaviour of this caliber occasionally, or as part of a normal developmental phase (such as the rebelliousness that accompanies the preteen years). For others, however, it’s an entrenched part of everyday life.…

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Help Your Child Develop These 10 Core Components Of Self-Esteem – Parents Article

            Helping your child to build healthy self-esteem is one of the most important objectives for parents. Self-esteem is the core of a healthy personality; kids with a strong sense of self-esteem tend to be more resistant to peer pressure and they are better able to deal with challenges and handle responsibility. They manage their emotions more effectively and have lower rates of anxiety and depression. They are less susceptible to eating disorders, drug abuse, and self-harm. But what exactly is self-esteem,…

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How To React When Your Child Is Preoccupied With Fairness – Parents Article

Having a sense of fairness is a great virtue and a sign that your child has a strong moral compass. Sometimes, however, kids become obsessed with fairness to an unrealistic degree. Toddlers, gifted children, and children with ADHD are especially prone to this kind of behaviour. When left unchecked, a deep preoccupation with fairness can lead to excessive tantrums, arguments on the playground, and other social issues. If your child is obsessed with fairness, you’ll need to work on balancing…

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How To Avoid The Three Most Harmful Parenting Traps – Parents Article

           No matter how well you think you’ve prepared yourself for parenting, moments will arise that stress you to your breaking point. You will inevitably react unfavourably at times and make mistakes. The good news is that this is usually nothing an apology, explanation, and change of course can’t fix. The bad news is that if these short-sighted responses begin to form a pattern, you could very easily fall into a damaging parenting “trap.” And, because habits become harder and…

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