When I look back over the last decade of my life I feel a little baffled. I certainly never expected to be a divorced single mum. Not in a million years. I married because I was madly in love and my dreams of the distant future included a 40-year wedding anniversary, downsizing and growing old with my husband/soul mate/father of my children. In reality, we staggered into our 10th wedding anniversary tired, disillusioned and both knowing it wasn’t working. Shortly…