growing pains

13 Thoughts About Running 13.1 Miles – Single Mum, Parents Article

Last weekend, I ran the Shape Women’s Half-Marathon. Yeah, you read that right. I laced up my New Balance kicks, secured my bib, and ran around Central Park. Twice. And then some. It was the longest distance I’ve ever run. (My previous longest run was nearly 10 miles.) Miles 1-7 were good and smooth. I was in a groove and, at an average pace of 10’0″/mi, I felt like Super Woman. Then it got hot. And hard. And as it…

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Mommy Delicious: {Relationship Stories} Guarded – Single Mum, Parents Article

I’m hanging out on the Lower East Side at happy hour with wo of my girlfriends and after a few five-dollar lychee martinis, I get started with some details about this thing I’ve got going on with The Guy. Specifically the fact that I’m all screwed up when it comes to dating and relationships and that I might kinda, sorta, really benefit from seeing a therapist. Don’t know what I’m talking about? Sigh. Catch yourself up by reading this. And then bear with me…

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What Nightmares Are Made Of – Single Mum, Parents Article

Seven. That’s how many times, on average, it takes a victim of intimate partner violence to leave the abuser. Seven. Seven incidents of humiliation. Seven incidents of confusion. Seven incidents of thinking, I can’t believe this happened to me. Seven incidents of self-blaming and self-loathing. Seven incidents of thinking, But maybe it’ll get better if only I could love harder/be more supportive/be less demanding. Seven. Some victims leave long before. Some leave long after. All are scarred for many, many years following the…

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Mommy Delicious: Brick by Brick – Single Mum, Parents Article

How I greeted students after Winter Break I suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), otherwise known as seasonal depression. In fact, even though it’s the start of a new year and new beginnings, January is my least favorite month of the year. I hate that it’s cold and that it gets dark by 4:00pm and it really affects my mood. Every year, I sit and complain and wallow in the fact that I really hate January and wish it were…

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Mommy Delicious: This is Eleven – Single Mum, Parents Article

Aiden: Ugh! I don’t want to. Ugh! No! Me: You don’t wanna follow directions? Fine. Bedtime. Aiden: Okay, okay! I’m sorry, I’m sorry! I’ll listen. Eleven is backtalk and mini tantrums and everything being a biggest deal ever. Eleven is me learning how to deal with these pre-teen hormones while raising a free black boy who owns his feelings while raising a kind and respectful and responsible human. Eleven is Aiden wanting space, together. Eleven is him wanting to watch…

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Why I Know I’m Getting This Motherhood Thing Right – Single Mum, Parents Article

Because I know I’m not perfect and I know that I mess some things up. Just check last week’s post about all the things I do wrong in this Motherhood game. (Yes, the “M” should be capital. Always.)Because I’m hella intentional and hella calculated and hella reflective about my parenting practices. And I’m always trying to be better tomorrow than I am today.Because I’ve learned that meditation and “Me Time” is so important to my mental health. And I allow…

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Girls and Their Hair – Dad the Single GuyDad the Single Guy – Single Dad, Parents Article

A lesson learned back in my teen-aged years about girls and their hair has generally served me well later in life. That lesson, just be complimentary, don’t be judgemental or critical.  It’s not that I don’t have an opinion, or don’t want to share it.  But girls and their hair share a unique relationship. As an only parent to two girls generally speaking I have let my daughters keep their hair as they want.  I call it picking my argument. …

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8765 Times Seven – Dad the Single GuyDad the Single Guy – Single Dad, Parents Article

There are 8765 hours in a year.  That mean more than 61-thousand hours have passed since Risa passed away – and still time remains an elusive concept to grasp.  Sometimes the hours (and days and months) fly by as I am amazed at what we have accomplished.   Other times, I can feel each of the hours painfully tick by – seemingly without a concern of the one that will follow. Perhaps its due to the time of year when this…

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Shared Experience – Dad the Single GuyDad the Single Guy – Single Dad, Parents Article

My kids have had their first Grateful Dead experience – and it was a success.  We shared the experience last night at Madison Square Garden as Dead and Company covered three hours or so of material.  As we were heading home, I realized this is just the latest in the shared experience my girls and I have. Through academic achievement, school performance and athletic endeavor, my girls have allowed me to share in the experience of their lives.  Seeing their…

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It’s Not A Popularity Contest – Single Dad, Parents Article

There are times – and I think it’s more now that my kids are older than when they were younger – when parents have to make a decision and the outcome is an unhappy child.  We know what call they want – but it’s not a popularity contest, so sometimes they’re just not happy. Over the last two weeks, I’ve run afoul of expectations of both of my girls.  While I can see their point of view on the issues…

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