grief

How to Change Your Shitty Husband – Single Dad, Parents Article

Image/”Change Ahead” artwork by Ed Myers “I fucking hated you,” she said. “I hated you because you’re the guy who made a damn name for himself because he was a self-proclaimed ‘shitty’ husband, which he was. The adoration and praise you would get from women for telling the damn truth about your ignorance in your relationship nauseated me.” … Today would have been my 15th wedding anniversary. If I wasn’t divorced. Instead, it’s the sixth anniversary that isn’t. Things changed.…

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Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: The Child Protection Plan – Foster Parents Article

Earlier this year my husband and I had the humbling and sobering experience of meeting with an attorney to draw up the papers for our personal Family Trust.  As part of the process, we had to come up with “nominations” of family members we trusted enough to become guardians to our children in the case that we both died or became incapacitated while our children were still minors.  Part of the paperwork we had to fill out in our Trust…

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Roses – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The rose I bought for my partner just before she left us has sprung into life. Wish she was here to see it. I finally shamed myself into sorting out the garden jungle. Maybe not immaculate but certainly almost passable. Suddenly we have flowers and roses. I had forgotten how many roses we bought before the world changed. I remember the day we finally got our son’s medical diagnosis signed off. It was a bit of a journey to the…

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It’s a fight – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Life is a permanent fight for survival. That applies to plants. It applies to humans. It applies to me. It probably applies to you. For me it’s a fight on many fronts Depression Grief Isolation School Government Health Providers Finances Stereotyping Body Tiredness Workload With myself It’s never ending. As much as you try you can never apparently win. Often your best hope is to just keep in the game. Survive another day. But the key is to try and…

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Seasons – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Same view – different season. I never asked my partner which view she preferred. One of thousands of questions I never asked. Oh for those 17 years again…. I suspect she would not have gone for the snow version. She didn’t like being cold. To be honest she didn’t like it too hot as well. She was a Spring and Autumn person. I would definitely opt for the snow version. I have always liked the cold. Maybe it was all…

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Going back to Switzerland? – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

It’s Switzerland Sunday again. Maybe one day I will do a Loire Valley post – another favourite place for the two of us before we became a team of 3. Sadly I’ve not been to that many countries but of the ones I have visited Switzerland has a look and feel like no other. It never fails to take your breathe away. It’s a country which uses all the colours available – no need for filters or photo enhancers here.…

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How to Comfort (and Not Comfort) Someone Going Through a Divorce – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Upsplash) Only two kinds of people could help me feel better during my first year of coping with, adjusting to, and healing from my divorce. The first kind of person was a friend or family member who knew me before I was married. My relationship with them lived independent of my marriage. My identity—for them—wasn’t intertwined with me being married. My ex-wife and I were together about 13 years in total, married for nine. And the majority of people in…

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In Defense of Mom Jeans, No Matter the Size – Parents Article

Do You Own a Pair of Mom Jeans? Oh, no!  The dreaded mom jeans!   Do you own a pair?   I do, and here is why I’m proud to “rock the mom jeans”!   They aren’t size 5, or even a size 10, although “mom jeans” do come in those sizes and some of my best friends wear them!  These mom jeans are filled with legs that have stood the test of time. The Legs in These Mom Jeans Have: ~ Helped build tents,…

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ReMoved#3- Love is Never Wasted – Foster Parents Article

Nathanael Matanick has done it once again!  I watched ReMoved 3 yesterday and was particularly impressed with the grief portrayed by the little boy, his mother, and the foster mother.* I also appreciated the portrayal of the complexities of differing opinions family members have when considering opening up your home to a foster placement as well as the positive and negative affects a child could have on other children in the home. Other observations: 8:10 killed me! I remember in…

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Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Adoption: Heartbreak and Hope – Foster Parents Article

Over the past year or so I’ve considered myself lucky if I’m able to write even one post a month on this blog.  Since there’s a few weeks remaining of November, here is my somewhat obligatory post during National Adoption Month. Adoption has undoubtedly been a huge blessing in my life, but it’s not always necessarily a sunny subject.  I think the complexity lies within the fact that I am the beneficiary of somebody else’s grief and loss.  I came…

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