gentle discipline

Why You Should Change The Way You Think, To Change the Way Your Child Behaves! – Parents Article

Expectations are the Enemy of Parents. I would say over 90% of the parenting dilemmas posed to me daily have one very simple answer; “you’re expecting too much of them”. Our expectations of child behaviour are totally warped in society today. We just expect too much of kids (and no age or behaviour is immune). We expect them to sleep like adults. We expect them to control their impulses like adults, regulate their emotions like adults, manage their time like…

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How to be a Gentle – Not Permissive – Parent – Parents Article

I was chatting with a journalist recently who was writing an article about forcing children to say sorry (based upon a piece I wrote for the HuffPost a while ago). In the piece I talk about the importance of parenting mindfully, leading by example and teaching children well – but not enforcing discipline because of societal rules, if those rules don’t fit with what we know to be a good fit for the capabilities of children. She asked me what I would do…

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The Two Most Important Steps to Coping with any Behaviour – and why so Many get it Wrong! – Parents Article

I often speak with parents who are struggling with a specific behaviour, such as hitting. They will say “I keep telling them to stop and explain why they shouldn’t do it – but it just keeps happening!”. The problem here is not necessarily what the parent has done, but what they *haven’t* done. Dealing with tricky behaviour is a two step process. If you skip one of these processes, it’s almost inevitable that your discipline will be ineffective. What are…

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