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Foster Talk | Respite Care – Foster Parents Article

Parenting is hard work. It takes patience, forgiveness, diligence, consistency, unconditional love, and so much more. Parenting a child from trauma is even harder work. Extreme behaviors, intense feelings, and inconsistent moods are common for children of all ages who are in foster care. For foster parents, who are often the witnesses/targets/recipients of these feelings and behaviors, it is heartbreaking to witness innocent children as they cope with big, heavy issues. As a result, foster parents inevitably end up carrying…

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Post Adoption: Now What? | Foster Care – Foster Parents Article

Can you believe it?? All those days/months/years of waiting and riding the wave of emotions and wondering if you would ever end up making this family officially permanent have actually come and GONE. Adoption day has been planned and executed and, much like a wedding, went by so quickly you are probably glad for cell phones that take great photos!  So … now what?  Well, post-adoption days sort of look a lot like pre-adoption days, minus the caseworker visits and…

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Navigating through the Termination of Parental Rights. – Foster Parents Article

TPR – “Termination of Parental Rights” – the final step before an adoption can move forward. On the surface, it might seem like just one more hurdle to go through in order to obtain permanency.  In some cases that might really be true, but if you dig a little deeper, it’s can be a very emotional and difficult step for many different parties involved. The roller coaster that is foster care doesn’t end at a TPR hearing; in fact, many…

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Parenting Difficult Behaviors | Keeping Your Cool in the Community – Foster Parents Article

You’re feeling frustrated; as much as you love being a foster parent, it isn’t always easy. Your child is facing significant challenges and dealing with difficult behaviors in public – at the store, at your place of worship, or during a family outing – is hard. Lately, you’re tempted to give in to your child’s demands so the behavior stops and you can both get on with your day. You need some fresh perspectives and tools that will help ground…

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Parenting Difficult Behaviors | Tips on Dealing with Sibling Rivalry – Foster Parents Article

Remember first and foremost, you are CHOOSING to be a foster parent. You need to make sure that you are going into foster care with the intention of having the child in your home be loved and cared for as if they were your own. This sounds good, until the first fight between your bio child and foster child.  All children fight. It is not the foster child or the bio child who is always wrong. Jealousy is a large…

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Parenting Difficult Behaviors | Changing the Dynamics – Foster Parents Article

When a parent brings foster children into the home, the additional child will change your family dynamics.  After all, it is not just the adults who will be fostering this child.  Your own children will have an important role in the well-being and safety of your new arrival. Take some time to sit down with your child and remind them why you chose to be a foster parent.  Share with them what you know, and remind them that the foster…

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Parenting Difficult Behaviors | Academic Issues at School – Foster Parents Article

There are a lot of factors that can affect a foster child’s academic performance – including prenatal drug exposure, lack of early childhood education, frequent school changes, and lack of academic support at home.  Many school systems are not experienced with the needs of foster children and struggle to support them academically. Here are my top 10 helpful tips for academic success for foster kids: If a child is having behavioral issues in school, there might be an underlying academic…

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Parenting Difficult Behaviors | Ready for School? – Foster Parents Article

When it comes to school, there are plenty of challenging behaviors kids might exhibit, and some of them might make you feel very concerned. What is triggering my child? What can I do? What are my resources? The school environment can present a big challenge because as a parent, you can’t be there in the moment of crisis to mediate, de-escalate, or control the situation at all. You rely on teachers, school administrators, and counselors to act in your place. …

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Foster Talk | Managing through a Goal Change – Foster Parents Article

Many foster families become very excited when they get word that the county Children and Youth agency is pursuing a “goal change” … but hold onto your hats, because the ride is just beginning!  This is one of the most pivotal points in a foster child’s case and it can be quite an emotional rollercoaster for everyone involved.   The “goal change” is when the county Children and Youth agency makes a formal request of the court to stop working…

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Doctors’ Visits | Foster Talk – Foster Parents Article

There are so many important jobs foster parents have when placed with a child. Obvious ones include being a nurturer, a stable mentor, and loving parent – but another responsibility is being the one who helps to identify and get a diagnosis for a possible medical and/or developmental concern. As difficult as it is to squeeze one more appointment into your schedule and one more thing to do during the times of transitions and bonding, arranging medical appointments is essential.…

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