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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

But the “mixed bag” of this day doesn’t negate what is true: You deserve a day to be celebrated. What you do, it is worthy of honor. Should be acknowledged. Deserves gratitude. So, to each of you, I say: Happy Mother’s Day. To the women who’s said goodbye to a beloved child and carries heartbreak through the celebration… To the woman who’s chosen to enter and reorient a child’s life forever, committing to share love and last names, no matter…

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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

But this–what we can see, the short-term that our eyes can comprehend, the temporariness of foster care–isn’t all that there is. “…We do not lose heart…we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” (2 Corinthians 4:16-18) My day day-to-day life–your day-to-day life–isn’t all that there is. The times your voice isn’t heard, your phone calls aren’t answered, your prayers don’t play out…

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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

I guess I always knew foster care existed. Even as a kid. I mean, I watched TV. Punky Brewster was cute. Gary Coleman was cute. Leo Dicaprio was cute. I knew that, in theory, there were foster children in the world. But it ended there. Never once did I consider that it had anything to do with me.It’s National Foster Care Month. A time when we have conversations about foster care. A time when we pause and pay attention to these…

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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

I had a conversation with my mom the other day that started like this: “I used to think adoption was so happy and beautiful.” Now don’t get me wrong. I think adoption is just about the happiest and most beautiful thing on this planet earth. But, in case you don’t know this, it’s not only, just happy and beautiful.I thought that the sad part of adoption was the time before the adoption. You know, the time where the child is the…

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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

This broken life is so often sweet and joyful. Two forever daughters through adoption; former foster children in my heart, and some even in my life, forever; joyful reunifications and families healed; Jesus magnified in my heart and in my life.But broken it is. Terrifying, anxiety-inducing reunifications; diagnoses given and suspected diagnoses yet-to-come; tragic deaths of biological parents; allegations and investigations; trauma and panic attacks and night terrors and hallucinations.Broken children, broken parents, broken relationships, broken families, broken lives, a…

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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

We were so frustrated we couldn’t see straight. We had rearranged our entire day, cancelled several appointments, pushed some meetings back on the calendar to make sure we were both home with the two children we were caring for, because our case manager told us earlier that morning that she would be by for a visit at 2pm, sharp. “Please be on time. I have several other visits I have to make,” her voice message said.So we were on time.…

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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

I put on a brave face. I don’t feel brave. I feel afraid. I feel sad. I feel all of it: good, bad, and ugly.But I put on the brave face. Not because I want to fake it. But because I want my face–and my feelings–to come in line with what I think, what I believe, what I know.I know that God makes better plans than I ever could.I know that a small-time county judge is really just a human conduit…

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Foster the Family – Foster Parents Article

Dear Single Foster & Adoptive Mom,You are my hero. You’re a hero to me. You’re a hero to the community or church or family around you, watching you. You’re a hero to the children in your home, being loved by you. You’re a living, breathing, real-life super hero.I had a rough week. My children all came down with the puking-pooping-feverish plague and, to boot, my husband was away for work. But you know what? He came home. And when the…

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I Just Don't Want To Hand Him Over Today… – Foster Parents Article

You know the old adage, “Never wake a sleeping baby”? Well, whoever said that, they didn’t have a baby with an early morning, court ordered visit with biological mom.I just woke baby boy, two hours earlier than usual. I dressed him in his best, the perfect outfit that perfectly says: “I take perfect care of your child.” I packed his bag, complete with our back-and-forth journal and newly printed photo album of her child.I did all the right things, pulled…

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