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4 Top Tips to Help Foster Carers Manage Behavioural Triggers – Foster Parents Article

Self-reflection and thinking about what is created between people in an interaction is all part of this process. As a foster carer you are asked to model for a young person what your thoughts, feelings and behaviours are, so they can see and hear positive and thoughtful responses from an adult they are learning to trust. You want them to use you as the safe and secure person they can learn and develop from. No pressure then! To get a…

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Does My Partner Have to be Involved in Foster Care If I Am? – Foster Parents Article

Sometimes partners aren’t keen to become foster carers because they’re worried about something in their past. Perhaps they have a minor criminal record from their own youth and worry either about that information being exposed or that it would discount them. Or perhaps they have bad or complicated family relationships that would see an application to become a foster carer knocked back. Your partner may not be keen to foster for a variety of reasons. Firstly, we would say that…

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What Happens If I Want to End a Foster Placement? – Foster Parents Article

Looking after foster children is different to looking after your own children, so it’s vital to be realistic about the fostering experience. These are children who come from backgrounds of trauma. They have difficulties forming attachments and they don’t trust adults because they’ve been let down before. They don’t have adults in their lives who have ‘got their back’. That’s often the cause of many of their behaviours. So a young person in foster care who is testing and pushing…

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What is it Like Appearing Before a Fostering Panel? – Foster Parents Article

So, what’s it like going into a foster care panel for the very first time? For Andi, a new carer from east London, it was a surprise to find so many people in the meeting room. “While I was waiting I kept seeing people pop in and out, so I knew there were several people in there,” she said. “But when you walk in you think ‘wow, so many’ – and then your mind just goes completely blank! I’m not…

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What is it Like Appearing Before a Fostering Panel? – Foster Parents Article

So, what’s it like going into a foster care panel for the very first time? For Andi, a new carer from east London, it was a surprise to find so many people in the meeting room. “While I was waiting I kept seeing people pop in and out, so I knew there were several people in there,” she said. “But when you walk in you think ‘wow, so many’ – and then your mind just goes completely blank! I’m not…

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How Do Foster Carers & Children Get Matched? – Foster Parents Article

When we get that “connected puzzle” feeling, we contact the foster carer and say “we’re sending a profile through, have a quick read and we’ll have a chat about your initial thoughts”. We’re hoping they’ll get that same feeling we did! At this point, there might be some areas on the child’s profile where there is not enough information. Perhaps it says the child has been physically aggressive, for example, but gives no detailed information. (Often a profile might say…

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How to Transfer From Your Current Foster Care Agency to LiKa – Foster Parents Article

After 18 years as a carer and 16 with the same service, Josie said transferring to a new foster care agency had made all the difference. “I feel less anxious,” she said. “I feel like someone has got my back. I know it shouldn’t be about that, but it is about that.” What’s her advice to foster carers thinking about a move? “If you are foster carer and you’re doing everything yourself, including the things your agency is supposed to…

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Caring for a Foster Child with Developmental Delay – Foster Parents Article

Julie said the biggest challenge of fostering a child with developmental delay is assessing how they’re settling in. “If she had been a ‘mainstream’ child it would have been easier to tell how she was getting along,” she said. “You’d put down most of her issues to that fact they’d had to come into care. But with her, I’m always wondering if something is to do with her delay.” Julie said the biggest challenge of fostering a child with developmental…

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All in good time – broke-single-dad – Single Dad, Parents Article

It hasn’t been plain sailing in the BSD household recently, and I’m squarely to blame. Youngest cub has made the quantum leap to being potty trained. A real milestone in the transition from toddler to child. I’m ever so proud of him; he even goes to the bathroom standing up, after observing daddy in some uncomfortably candid moments. I was conscious of this milestone as he entered the schooling system last September. His birthday is in late August and he…

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Editing Scripts – broke-single-dad – Single Dad, Parents Article

After a rather successful half-term holiday break, I haven’t seen the cubs for a few days. They’re with me for the next four days but I’ve missed them terribly. I pick them up from after-school club on what was for me a testing day at work. All stresses fell away after I saw them. Youngest came out first, looking thoroughly fed up; 50% of him seemed to consist of tomato soup, the folly of a white, cotton school top. Driving…

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