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How to Respond to Your Emotional Spouse Without Making Things Worse – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/cristianobaraghini.it) More often than not, when my wife reacted emotionally to anything—something I said or did; something on TV; something that happened at work, whatever—my gut reaction was to think of her response as an overreaction. This was not me intentionally trying to demean or disrespect her. This was my honest, natural, and I believed—objective—reaction to whatever she was saying or doing that I perceived to be disproportionate to whatever triggered the emotional response. I was using commonplace, relationship-killing invalidation…

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The One Book Every Single Mom Should Read – Single Mum, Parents Article

0 Flares Reddit 0 StumbleUpon 0 Buffer 0 Filament.io 0 Flares × Hey mamas! So I was kindly sent a book recently and asked to share it with you. I was super excited to read it as it’s a book filled with stories and poems from single…

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Must Women Leave Men to Get Them to Change? – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/David Colarusso)“Would you have changed if she had not left you?” Within an hour of answering this exact question in the comments of How to Change Your Shitty Husband, someone else sent an email asking the same question, and whether I’d written an article about it before. I have answered this question many times—but I think thoughtlessly and too cynically. Maybe because I thought the question was actually about me. Maybe sometimes it is. Wives and girlfriends, I think, are…

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PODCAST: If Anyone Cares – The Art of Letting Go ⋆ Dreams of My Own – Single Mum, Parents Article

Recently, I was invited as a guest on one of the most popular and most listened podcast show with my girl, Jandeltha Rae of If Anyone Cares. Speaking on my faith, re-marrying my ex-husband, what’s next with Dreams of My Own and some good ol’ fashioned girl talk! ‘If Anyone Cares’ is a bi-weekly podcast that addresses controversial topics with a HILARIOUS twist. No topic is off limits: Race, Sex, Relationships, Social Issues and more is all fair game! Catch…

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How to Change Your Shitty Husband – Single Dad, Parents Article

Image/”Change Ahead” artwork by Ed Myers “I fucking hated you,” she said. “I hated you because you’re the guy who made a damn name for himself because he was a self-proclaimed ‘shitty’ husband, which he was. The adoration and praise you would get from women for telling the damn truth about your ignorance in your relationship nauseated me.” … Today would have been my 15th wedding anniversary. If I wasn’t divorced. Instead, it’s the sixth anniversary that isn’t. Things changed.…

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The 2,000 Reasons I’m Glad I Didn’t Die Last Night – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Aron Visuals) There haven’t been many days when I’ve wanted to die. Maybe zero. I felt really bad for a long time after my marriage ended, and I sort of stopped caring. I figured being dead might hurt less. A little boy and you guys gave me reasons to dust myself off and keep trying every day. There aren’t many days when I actually thought that I was going to die, even though I’ve probably almost died a bunch of…

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Adding Spice to Your Love Life Through Routine and Predictability – Single Dad, Parents Article

“We almost died like 15 times throughout this movie, Sandra. We should totally go home and do it.” – Keanu Reeves (Image/whodatedwho.com) Have you ever been an audience member during a speaking presentation or concert where the audience is asked to do something to participate—like share something to the group, or clap, or sing? You remember that feeling? Yeah, you do. I’ve always hated that shit. It triggers whatever big red Discomfort Button that lives in the invisible parts of…

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How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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How My Failed Marriage Made Me A Better Father – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday was my anniversary. It would have been thirteen years. In the early summer of 2016, my Wife had enough of being miserable and that was the end of it. While we made it to ten years, it was just a formality at that point, while we waited for the divorce process to complete. Talking about my marriage isn’t something I do too often here, because it’s a dark cloud in the distant sky, despite the sun shining right now.…

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Drifting Apart: How Bad Things Happen Even When it Feels Like Nothing Happened – Single Dad, Parents Article

Did you almost cry but pretend like you weren’t because crying over a volleyball feels REALLY stupid when you watched our boy Tom lose his only friend in the movie “Cast Away”? Whatever. That’s what I did. (Image/newsmov.biz) I almost wrote something outrageous about how Galileo Galilei’s and Isaac Newton’s first law of motion was effing up relationships. The first law of motion—also called the “law of inertia”—states that a body or object at rest remains at rest, and that…

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