divorce

More Babies or More Divorces After COVID-19? – Parents Article

Source: Timisu/Pixabay The COVID-19 pandemic is so different from anything we have ever experienced, yet it will be compared to natural disasters and outbreaks we have had in the past. The differences between our experiences with the coronavirus are its vastness, its unpredictability, and its duration. It’s as if we are stranded on an island with essentially no idea when we can get off. We are accustomed to external involvement with others, amusements from sporting events and concerts to dinners…

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We thought we had co-parenting down—then the pandemic happened – Parents Article

Co-parenting is tough in the best of times, and the novel coronavirus, known as COVID-19, has made things a little extra weird around here. “Kids! Daddy’s here!” I yell up the stairs, trying to lure them down from their screens. Daddy, a.k.a. my ex-husband, stands on the front walk waiting patiently. We have a quick catch-up through the window screen as the kids put on their shoes and coats to hang out with him from the porch—at a six-foot/two-metre distance.…

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A Q & A With Erin Levine. – Single Dad, Parents Article

When events overtake reason, it’s hard to sit and create content  This does not mean I have no content to create.  But imagine most influencers create their content out of personal experience.  They go to an event, eat amazing food, travel to various parts of the earth, and bring it to you in the comfort of your living room.  What do you do if those opportunities dry up (for various reasons), and your world becomes small?  What do you write…

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Arguments for why alimony is sexist and promotes gender inequality – Single Mum, Parents Article

I blindly grew up and into my 30s assuming the standard-issue feminist party line:Women’s work is uncompensated and undervalued. When women become stay-at-home mothers, that benefits men’s careers, and when the marriage ends, she should be compensated for that lost earning potential. Both partners’ lifestyles should be the same when the marriage ends!Then, I watched my friend get divorced, and face alimony.He had a high-earning career, and after spending her 20s in low-paid retail jobs, his wife stayed home full-time…

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Love in the Time of Coronavirus – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/CBS46.com) So I’ve been thinking about this virus going around. You know the one. I’m scheduled to turn 41 later this month, and near as I can tell, this is the first real-time global health crisis during my lifetime with the potential to affect everyone. The Covid-19 coronavirus doesn’t care how much money you have. It doesn’t care which language you speak nor what country you call home. It doesn’t care about your age or race or religious beliefs or…

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Taking the Wheel Vs. Destroying Our Marriages on Autopilot – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Forbes) The word ‘habits’—at least for me—conjures images of working out or smoking or biting my fingernails. People talk about developing good study habits or good work habits as a means of succeeding in school or in their career pursuits. I never thought about habits as having any bearing on my marriage or any of my interpersonal relationships. But is has occurred to me recently—as I continue to work on myself, and as I continue to work with people trying…

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The Idea That Would Have Saved My Marriage and Might Save Yours – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Redbubble) The reasons more than half of all romantic relationships (including marriage) fail are not obvious to most people. If you need proof, just ask your current or former relationship partner to share their beliefs about what you experience—good and bad—in your relationship, (or your reasons for wanting to leave your former partner). I’m willing to bet that eight—probably nine—times out of 10, their answer will fall well short of accurately describing your experiences, highlighting all of the ways they…

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Save Your Marriage Using the Monster-Under-the-Bed Theory – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/John Lewis) Imagine getting a phone call. You answer. A stranger on the other end of the line identifies his or herself as a law enforcement agent. You feel a little flutter of anxiety. The law enforcement official names someone you love dearly. Maybe it’s the name of a family member. “There’s been an accident. I’m so sorry. Would you be willing to come downtown to identify the body?” Shock. Disbelief. Disoriented. Maybe the most unspeakably painful feeling that you…

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Where to Find Solutions to Your Relationship Problems – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Tubefilter.com) The best place to look for solutions — to any significant problem you may face; not just relationship problems — are in the non-obvious places. The places you haven’t looked. The places you wouldn’t think to look. And that’s the rub. It’s counter-intuitive to think of things we don’t naturally or instinctively think of. It’s sort of impossible to notice or know about things we can’t see. One relationship partner’s failure to notice something (or many things) meaningful to…

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Break Toxic Communication Habits with The STFU Method – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/The Cheap Place) Actor and comedian Denis Leary has a bit in his hilarious 1992 stand-up act No Cure for Cancer where he jokes about developing a revolutionary new form of therapy that involves him curing his patients by angrily telling them to shut the fuck up. Leary’s kidding. He’s telling absurd jokes to elicit laughter. And while I use profanity infinitely less often than early-90’s Leary, it occurs to me that I have spent the past several months offering…

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