discipline

ADHD and Me – Dad and Buried – Parents Article

Last year, I shared a post about my son’s ADHD diagnosis, and the relief it brought. Finally, we had confirmation that our 9yo wasn’t intentionally ignoring us, willfully misbehaving, or somehow a bad kid. His brain is just wired differently, and with his diagnosis, we’ve been able to view things from a different perspective; hopefully, a more patient and understanding one. Of course, understanding the big picture is one thing and managing my everyday reactions to his behavior is another.…

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Lying, Stealing, Hoarding – Janet Lansbury – Parents Article

In response to a parent’s question about her 4-year-old’s habit of appropriating toys and clothing that don’t belong to her, Janet illuminates the underlying causes for some other troubling — but common — childhood behaviors. This mom writes that she has tried to explain to her daughter why the behavior is wrong and has been hoping that she will outgrow it, but it has only gotten worse. “I know it’s not about the things,” she writes. “She rarely cares about…

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Our Children Crave Boundaries – Permissiveness is Unkind – Parents Article

There are parents like me who would rather avoid setting boundaries. We fear that conflict or disagreements with our kids will amount to a net loss for us. You’ll stop liking me. You’ll leave. You’ll be too sad, angry, broken spirited. We’ll feel ashamed, doubtful, blame ourselves. It can feel safer to swallow up our own needs and wants to avoid making waves, even though this invariably means we’re the ones left drowning in a sea of resentment, anger, self-pity.…

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If You Have A Teen, Read This! – Parents Article

Is your relationship with your teenager changing? Are you grieving a little, and celebrating a little? Is your teenager ready to leap forward? Are you struggling to find your balance in parenting your teenager? I hope your relationship with your teenager is changing – it should be, and this typically involves more of a need for privacy, a need for separation from you for the emerging self.  However, many parents have  a hard time navigating this emotionally and also how…

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Hey Parents, Let’s Not Raise Asshole Children. – Parents Article

Yesterday, my normally ‘good’ child gave me a glimpse of what we could expect in his teenage years. He was surly and rude and quite frankly, no bum klap or timeout was working. I eventually resorted to banning his TV time for 3 nights (yes, shit escalated). Now, any parent worth their salt understands that a ban on TV time is actually harder for the adults. Our Netflix gets switched on so fast an hour before bed that sometimes magicians blink twice. I use the…

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Parent Feels Abused By Her Children’s Verbal Outbursts – Parents Article

In this episode: Janet responds to a parent who says her kids scream at her, shout orders, complain about their lives, and call her a “rubbish mum.” While she acknowledges her former partner’s emotionally abusive behavior is probably a factor in their behavior, and she believes her kids should express their emotions fully, but she’s clearly fed up. “How much abuse and screaming am I supposed to put up with before I stop acknowledging, stop empathizing, and say enough is…

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Problem Solving to Reduce Fighting and Aggression – Parents Article

  Problem Solving to Reduce Fighting and Aggression It’s not uncommon for children to argue over a toy or become frustrated when they are told “no.” Fighting and aggression—whether it’s in the form of name calling, pushing, hitting, or refusing to share—are common responses when children lack problem-solving skills. It’s important to teach young children the value of playing cooperatively and getting along with others. Teaching your child how to solve problems and conflicts is a skill that will help them…

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True Story: The Nurtured Heart Approach® and Me – Foster Parents Article

Lenore Bonilla, embrella’s Support Services Manager, shares her experiences with The Nurtured Heart Approach® Grounded.  That’s a word I became very familiar with in high school.  No, I don’t mean grounded as in “realistic” – I mean grounded as in punished, sent to my room, cut off from friends or from my computer.  I wasn’t a bad kid, really, but there were certain rules I was bad at following.  Mostly, it was my chores, and specifically, it was mowing the…

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Strategies For Giving Instructions – Parenting Now! – Parents Article

Strategies For Giving Instructions It seems straight-forward enough: “Please go brush your teeth.” But 5-minutes later, you find your child playing in their room, their teeth unbrushed and still covered in the night’s dinner. At first glance, it’s easy to assume that your child is purposely ignoring you or refusing your request. But, in many cases, the way a parent gives instructions can influence the way a child responds to your request. This week in Triple P, we look at…

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In Defense of Mom Jeans, No Matter the Size – Parents Article

Do You Own a Pair of Mom Jeans? Oh, no!  The dreaded mom jeans!   Do you own a pair?   I do, and here is why I’m proud to “rock the mom jeans”!   They aren’t size 5, or even a size 10, although “mom jeans” do come in those sizes and some of my best friends wear them!  These mom jeans are filled with legs that have stood the test of time. The Legs in These Mom Jeans Have: ~ Helped build tents,…

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