Dating

Dating 911! Get Busy Living, Or Get Busy Dating! – Single Dad, Parents Article

“If there hadn’t been women we’d still be squatting in a cave eating raw meat, because we made civilization to impress our girlfriends.” Orson Welles When it comes to doing things differently, everyone is allergic.  Our very existence is built upon the stories we tell ourselves about the world and the worlds we inhabit.  The irony is when we tell our stories we exist as very static characters, put upon by the ill fortunes of life.  Our dating story is…

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Salsa and Dating by Nicole Smith – Single Mum, Parents Article

Salsa and Dating? How does that go together? Growing up in a Panamanian home meant that we listened and danced to salsa music…a lot. I have grown to love this art form so much and it brings me joy like nothing else in this world. Little did I know it would also be a guiding tool in how I approached dating. Step 1 – Lay the Foundation. In a salsa class, before you ever learn to dance with a partner,…

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How to Respond to Your Emotional Spouse Without Making Things Worse – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/cristianobaraghini.it) More often than not, when my wife reacted emotionally to anything—something I said or did; something on TV; something that happened at work, whatever—my gut reaction was to think of her response as an overreaction. This was not me intentionally trying to demean or disrespect her. This was my honest, natural, and I believed—objective—reaction to whatever she was saying or doing that I perceived to be disproportionate to whatever triggered the emotional response. I was using commonplace, relationship-killing invalidation…

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Must Women Leave Men to Get Them to Change? – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/David Colarusso)“Would you have changed if she had not left you?” Within an hour of answering this exact question in the comments of How to Change Your Shitty Husband, someone else sent an email asking the same question, and whether I’d written an article about it before. I have answered this question many times—but I think thoughtlessly and too cynically. Maybe because I thought the question was actually about me. Maybe sometimes it is. Wives and girlfriends, I think, are…

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PODCAST: If Anyone Cares – The Art of Letting Go ⋆ Dreams of My Own – Single Mum, Parents Article

Recently, I was invited as a guest on one of the most popular and most listened podcast show with my girl, Jandeltha Rae of If Anyone Cares. Speaking on my faith, re-marrying my ex-husband, what’s next with Dreams of My Own and some good ol’ fashioned girl talk! ‘If Anyone Cares’ is a bi-weekly podcast that addresses controversial topics with a HILARIOUS twist. No topic is off limits: Race, Sex, Relationships, Social Issues and more is all fair game! Catch…

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How Dating May Be Making You Toxic, Stop Dating & Start Healing – Single Mum, Parents Article

Normally I am a HUGE HUGE advocate of dating because I feel it is an excellent way to get yourself out there, discover what you want in a relationship, or even help you with self-esteem, and feeling comfortable with the opposite sex BUT not everyone should date. In fact, some of you need to stop dating ASAP. Because the more you do it the more you do it the more you are causing your own self pain because some of…

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Drifting Apart: How Bad Things Happen Even When it Feels Like Nothing Happened – Single Dad, Parents Article

Did you almost cry but pretend like you weren’t because crying over a volleyball feels REALLY stupid when you watched our boy Tom lose his only friend in the movie “Cast Away”? Whatever. That’s what I did. (Image/newsmov.biz) I almost wrote something outrageous about how Galileo Galilei’s and Isaac Newton’s first law of motion was effing up relationships. The first law of motion—also called the “law of inertia”—states that a body or object at rest remains at rest, and that…

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Are you DONE kissing frogs? | – Single Mum, Parents Article

Haven’t you found THE man to be the father of your child yet? And maybe you have already kissed a number of frogs that unfortunatelyremained… frogs! Please don’t worry! A lot of the women I have spoken with have periodically had thoughts like: “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve love” or “I don’t deserve to be a mother” or “There must be something wrong with me since I haven’t found the rightman yet”. I would L-O-V-E to inspire…

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Do You Know The Difference Between a Codependent & Interdependent Relationship? · Divorced Moms – Single Mum, Parents Article

I was surprised to learn that this grove of Aspen trees is actually one organism, sharing one root system. Each of us also is an interconnected community of 70 trillion cells. Biologist Bruce Lipton believes that together we’re “one collaborative superorganism.” I love that Facebook allows us to connect one-to-one all over the planet. For the movie: click here. Society is highly specialized and interdependent so that few of us would know how to survive without running water, electricity, and a…

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How the Color Purple is Harming Your Relationships – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Science) Pop quiz: If your relationship problems are decreasing mathematically and your romantic partner is observably adjusting his or her behavior in an honest attempt to connect with you emotionally, but your brain and subsequent emotions are telling you otherwise, is your relationship actually improving? But Matt! What a silly question! If my partner were lovingly changing their behavior for my benefit and the benefit of our relationship, my mind and heart would NEVER tell me otherwise! Awww. It’s cute…

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