Communication

Words have POWER • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach – Parents Article

Sometimes the best blogs come from the hearts of dear friends. A while back a young mom posted this on social media. She has two young children and a heart of gold. I’m sharing this with her permission as food for thought as we kick of a series of blogs about the reality of parenting and how our words have impact. “Words have POWER. Order matters… Happy boy with raised armsThis morning my 4 year old came to me so…

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Dads Get Postnatal Depression Too – Parents Article

Dads Get Postnatal Depression Too We know that 1 in 5 Moms can have feelings of sadness or depression after the birth of their baby, and that two thirds of Moms feel emotionally fragile or numb within the first 10 days after giving birth. But Moms aren’t the only ones who can experience a shift in their mental health after the birth of a child. National Institutes of Health research suggests that anywhere between 4 and 25 percent of Dads experience depression…

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Dads Get Postnatal Depression Too – Parents Article

Dads Get Postnatal Depression Too We know that 1 in 5 Moms can have feelings of sadness or depression after the birth of their baby, and that two thirds of Moms feel emotionally fragile or numb within the first 10 days after giving birth. But Moms aren’t the only ones who can experience a shift in their mental health after the birth of a child. National Institutes of Health research suggests that anywhere between 4 and 25 percent of Dads experience depression…

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How Are You Coping With the Challenges of Parenting? – Parents Article

How Are You Coping With the Challenges of Parenting? Being a parent and managing a family can be stressful at times. Sleepless nights with a newborn, toddler upsets, or a bout of illness can all test a parent’s ability to handle challenging moments with grace and ease. While these moments are generally fleeting—children eventually sleep through the night; toddlers learn to regulate their emotions; illnesses pass—constant stress can take its toll on us as parents. It’s important to know some…

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How the Color Purple is Harming Your Relationships – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Science) Pop quiz: If your relationship problems are decreasing mathematically and your romantic partner is observably adjusting his or her behavior in an honest attempt to connect with you emotionally, but your brain and subsequent emotions are telling you otherwise, is your relationship actually improving? But Matt! What a silly question! If my partner were lovingly changing their behavior for my benefit and the benefit of our relationship, my mind and heart would NEVER tell me otherwise! Awww. It’s cute…

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Twins Aren’t Talking Yet? Here’s what to do… – Parenting Twins Article

I recently heard from some twin parents worried about the speech of their 18 month old twins. What should you do when your twins aren’t talking yet? Should you worry? Is it natural? Here’s what to consider: Key Speech Milestones As your children grow, look for key speech development milestones. These vary by age but will show steady progress in their ability to understand and attempt communicating with you and each other. When they are less than a year old,…

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“I’m Happy AND I’m Sad”: Toddlers and “Mixed-Together” Feelings – Parents Article

    Down comes 2 1/2 year old Sasha’s foot in the mud puddle. She squeals in delight as the water splashes up her leg. Sasha repeats this over and over, only stopping when she excitedly notices a worm in another puddle. A most magical aspect of caring for my children as toddlers (and later my young grandchildren) was their constant inspiration for me to be 100% present.  Oh, the delight of being in the here and now! Here’s another…

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Podcast Interview: The Mindset You Must Change if You Want a Great Marriage – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/thelifestyleplaybook.com) I know what you’re probably not thinking: I really want to listen to Matt blather on about conflict in relationships! And because you’re not thinking that, this is me encouraging you to start thinking about it because clearly I’m an attention-whore. Therapist and author Lesli Doares, because she’s kind and gracious, invites me onto her podcast Happily Ever After is Just the Beginning every so often to jam about relationship stuff. (You can also check out Lesli’s The Hero Husband Project…

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What to Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Respect You – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/Respect360.org) Oh no. You feel disrespected by your wife. This is definitely bad for your marriage and a poor example for any children you might have. You’ve done the best possible thing you could have in this situation, and I hope you’ll choose to feel good about it. You’ve asked great questions: Why doesn’t my wife respect me? What do I do about it? But it’s possible you’ve missed one: Are my feelings about my wife’s respect level for me…

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Would You Leave Your Spouse Over Dirty Dishes?: A Lesson on Conflict Management – Single Dad, Parents Article

(Image/HuffPost) We pulled into our parking space in Florida’s version of the “happiest place on earth,” and all of my insides were knotted up. In my left pocket was the most expensive thing I’d ever bought—a pretty pear-shaped diamond engagement ring I’d been secretly paying off for months. This felt like the place. Disney World’s Magic Kingdom. She loved Disney. This felt like the time. The Fourth of July. She loved fireworks. I wasn’t tense because I was planning a…

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