childhood

Unwanted anniversary – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The way forward is sometimes difficult under foot. Another storm is heading our way. Storm Jorge. The world news is grim and unremittingly depressing. Definitely no solace at school. Son scored 14 out of 15 in his Drama spelling test. The one he got wrong was Unferth. Unferth is a warrior who opposes Beowulf. It’s not a word he’s likely to use much in life. I am so pleased with son. I wouldn’t have got 14 and I’m not dyslexic.…

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Hanging on – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

After all the bad weather. The floods. The driving rain. The damaging winds. After three storms. Conditions which have proved too much for the early daffodils. The snowdrops are still hanging on. They are truly wonderful little delicate flowers. Hanging on applies to the humans as well. Son’s anxiety levels are definitely spiking now. He is returning to the outside world after 10 days of safety within the confines of his house and garden. Days of not needing to build…

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Sliding – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

So far Storm Dennis has been ok with us. So many have had it far worse than ourselves. Last time I looked there was over 560 flood warnings. Many houses are already underwater. So so sad and it’s happening more frequently. Sometimes having a messy, pet wrecked garden helps. It’s makes it less obvious when a storm strikes. So as I surveyed the increased mess zone something caught my eye. Unbelievably during yesterday’s weather hammering two daffodils had decided to…

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White elephant – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The zero hours contract yielded 5 hours work today. Another 50000000 hours and I might just keep the bank manager from sending me snotty letters. Just enough time left for a quick run. The light was stunning. It’s the quiet before the next storm hits. “Is it true that we are getting another storm.” “Yes Son it’s due to hit at the weekend. But this time maybe just a little less wind but much more rain.” “Great. I bet they…

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I speak proper – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

These little beauties seemingly flower earlier every year. When we first moved here the snowdrops flowered mid February. These guys flowered mid March and the Daffodils arrived during April. I guess my Dad would have said something like ‘blimey I’ve only just planted me Goosegogs‘. Goosegogs is Yorkshire for Gooseberries. Once a week we have school bagmageddon. Poor bairn (kid) is packed off lugging (carrying) two bursting at the seams bags. I wish someone would invent a Dr Who Tardis…

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End Game – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The way forward is shrouded in mist but a clear route is emerging. As we move into the second week of the Year 8 exams we have a clear state of play emerging. Son is trying his hardest, school clearly is not. Son again was upset this weekend as he clearly thought that school sees him as not very bright and a failure. He found out that he came third bottom in his Drama exam. Well was that surprising when…

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Two quotes – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

“I AM DIFFERENT NOT LESS” – Dr Temple Grandin Another week we dust ourselves down and go again. Although the route is still shrouded in mist and we face countless dead ends – we must keep going. If not for me but for our son. A session with a new health professional. Always a good sign when she does not ask me what I want, she asks our son. The health professional is going to contact school to see what…

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Lakeside – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

New Years Eve. A walk to a local lake. For our Son a good walk as apart from a couple of anglers we had the place to ourselves. This might have been the first place we walked to when we moved to the village. A time before parenthood. But parenting was at the forefront of our thoughts. It was the main reason we left the city. It looked a good safe place to raise a family. A perfect fit. Fast…

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It’s such a hard life – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Time for some random words. Subservient Tudor Expect Discipline Chaperone Accused Suspicious Breadwinner Complicated Stereotypical Shakespeare Elizabethan A few beauties from this weeks school spelling test. Is this really a level playing field for kids with dyslexia. I remember joking that in a few months he will have to learn the spellings of dinosaurs. Dinosaurs like Micropachycephalosaurus. Well the way these spellings are going I’m not ruling it out now. A bit of a test day today for me. Trying…

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Flick the switch – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Ans so the transition begins. A transition from a happy and relaxed boy to one wracked with doubt and anxiety. School starts to flick the switch again. How many kids are going through this experience. Far Too Many. Here the school prison gates open on Monday. Son’s words not mine. So on this glorious winters day he tries to wade through the homework which was dished out before Christmas. He spent an hour trying to sketch a mirror image of…

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