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Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: The Child Protection Plan – Foster Parents Article

Earlier this year my husband and I had the humbling and sobering experience of meeting with an attorney to draw up the papers for our personal Family Trust.  As part of the process, we had to come up with “nominations” of family members we trusted enough to become guardians to our children in the case that we both died or became incapacitated while our children were still minors.  Part of the paperwork we had to fill out in our Trust…

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Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Reflections on Instant Family – Foster Parents Article

Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Reflections on Instant Family Pages Reflections on Instant Family I finally got around to seeing Instant Family and I thought it was a good blend of accuracy and humor in portraying what foster-adoptive families experience. Rather than give a complete plot summary, here are some scenes and themes I’d like to share which stood out to me in particular, as someone who has fostered and adopted children through the foster care system: Fantasy Children…

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ReMoved#3- Love is Never Wasted – Foster Parents Article

Nathanael Matanick has done it once again!  I watched ReMoved 3 yesterday and was particularly impressed with the grief portrayed by the little boy, his mother, and the foster mother.* I also appreciated the portrayal of the complexities of differing opinions family members have when considering opening up your home to a foster placement as well as the positive and negative affects a child could have on other children in the home. Other observations: 8:10 killed me! I remember in…

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Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: Adoption: Heartbreak and Hope – Foster Parents Article

Over the past year or so I’ve considered myself lucky if I’m able to write even one post a month on this blog.  Since there’s a few weeks remaining of November, here is my somewhat obligatory post during National Adoption Month. Adoption has undoubtedly been a huge blessing in my life, but it’s not always necessarily a sunny subject.  I think the complexity lies within the fact that I am the beneficiary of somebody else’s grief and loss.  I came…

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Reuniting Families and Fostering Immigrant Children – Foster Parents Article

I expressed my concerns over migrant children being separated from their parents at the U.S. border in my last post, but I guess I’m not done because I have a few more concerns: Concern #1: How are all of the children who have been separated from their parents going to be reunited with them? June 20th’s Executive Order will put a stop to separating families at the border but how will all of the families who have been separated be “put…

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“Suffer the Children to come unto Me . . . Unless” – Foster Parents Article

Some of the most heartbreaking experiences I have had as a foster parent are trying to comfort a newly placed foster child in my home as they cry out for their parents.  Nighttime is invariably the hardest time and intensifies the anxiety, confusion, grief, and trauma that these children experience as a result of being separated from their families through no fault of their own.  If the child is old enough to ask “Why can’t I be with my parents?”…

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I Miss My Birth Mom – Foster Parents Article

I have learned that some of the absolute WORST things to hear when you are suffering and have attempted to share what you’re feeling with someone is: “But you shouldn’t feel that way.” or anything to the effect of “But it’s in the past, can’t you just get over it?” (Even if it’s not stated that way but implied). Such statements are entirely invalidating and not helpful in the least.  Plus, do you think that someone who hears those replies…

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Reflections on the Movie “Lion” – Foster Parents Article

I finally saw the movie “Lion” over the weekend (it’s on Redbox) and I highly recommend it. Here are some of my impressions of the movie: -There are far too many children all over the world without families.  Poverty plays a huge role in why children become orphaned, as does education.  In the true story behind Lion, Saroo is a young Indian boy who tragically becomes lost and permanently separated from his mother.  Saroo has no choice but to live…

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