The Lion’s Den | Herding Chickens and Other Adventures in Foster and Adoptive Care – Foster Parents Article

The sound of her voice sets my teeth on edge. The children’s older biological sister, M, is difficult for me to stomach. I am caught between my instinct to get her away from my children and the idea that I should try to maintain their original sibling bonds. It’s hard for me to do. Contact with her is something the children are entitled to. She isn’t a danger to them. She’s just…herself. I know that if I keep them from…

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Structural Integrity – Foster Parents Article

Birdy spent a couple of days in hospital recently. It’s not the first time this has happened and these days we tend to be better prepared, so, before I loaded everyone in the car at 5 am, I threw a few things into a bag – whatever drinks and snacks I could grab from the cupboard, the kids’ tablets and chargers, all the spare change I had. I also made a large instant coffee in an insulated mug and brought…

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Story-Telling, Letter-Writing – Foster Parents Article

When you adopt a child, there’s a lot said about ‘life story work’ which is, basically, an economical term for describing the lifelong process of helping an adopted child understand their past and their present, and why things have happened as they have. OB has never really been interested in his life story. I feel strangely guilty about that, as if it’s somehow a failure on my part to make the whole life story thing interesting and worthwhile. The prevailing…

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Reminiscences – Foster Parents Article

This week I received a transition plan for Squidge. In a few weeks he will leave here and go to live with his daddy and that will be the end of his time with me, and the end of my time as a foster carer. It’s over a year now since I first thought my fostering days may be over. At the time I was disillusioned, tired and felt let down. A combination of factors meant that I did end…

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