Bereavement

The forecast – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The weather forecast is saying it’s clear blue sky and no rain today. The clouds and the showers would beg to differ. Another inaccurate weather forecast. It’s clearly the forecasters fault that it’s raining …. It always is. I remember going to a Test Match (Cricket) between England and India. It had been a good weather forecast. But it was chucking it down and play was suspended. With perfect timing the main TV weatherman came onto the pitch to do…

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Busy – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Running round the small garden for what seems like the millionth time and desperately trying to find an excuse to stop for a few seconds. Thankfully a yellow rose is a suitable excuse for a photo pit stop. I’m sat writing this during another brief day pit stop. Son is having a wander round the garden, dreaming and working on what we do next this Sunday afternoon. It will be a short pit stop. Maybe 30 minutes at most. It’s…

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Get my head round – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The sun is shining. It’s still cold but we will settle for this. So it’s almost official. School has emailed parents to say that looking at the latest government guidance – which apparently isn’t much – only some Primary pupils and those sitting final exams next year will get any direct teaching over the next few months. The earliest Son will be back in school is going to be September. So it’s time to get our heads round this. Looking…

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Swimming – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Yesterday the sun was shining and the garden was filled with colour. Today the sun is gone. It’s cold, very cold. A biting strong wind blows across a grey landscape. The weather matches my mood….. After days of care free smiles, today the smile is a little forced. Thoughts are a little darker. The world seems a cold and increasingly lonely place. Rather than thinking of memories as precious blessings, all too easily my wanders to thoughts of what has…

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Friendships – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Pesky school played that trick on me again. Son is all set up for the next school at home lesson. THEN at the start of the lesson the teacher asks for work to be done which requires a plasticine model to be made. As we don’t have a fully functioning stationary and supplies cupboard, an urgent search of draws and boxes took place. Eventually a large ball of old Blu Tack was found. That will just have to do. But…

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Judging yourself through your grief – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

I am so thrilled that Katie and Evee have been so kind enough to write another post for me. I know from all the comments that the last one they penned was so loved. Please checkout their blog (The Grief Reality), it’s such a wonderful source of love, human spirit and hope. You might also come across another post from me there today as well. I know how tough this post would have been to write for them. I have…

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Random memories – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Today’s mobile phone, out of focus, wildlife photo. Another bird flying. Another night and another bizarre dream. An LP (yes vinyl) was being released and I wanted to make sure I got a copy. So I camped out overnight outside a small record shop. During the increasingly wet and cold night the public telephone (just a few paces away) kept ringing. When I picked it up I could hear my partner at the other end, but she couldn’t hear me.…

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Stages – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

One of my first records I purchased was ‘All the worlds a stage’ by the rock legends, Rush. Shakespeare wrote that ‘All the worlds a stage’. Don’t worry I’m not going all thespian on you. But I must admit I fancy my chances these days of doing a mighty fine Richard III stage performance. Why is the Stagecoach Bus always two hours late when I try to catch it. Just watched wrestling on the TV which is staged. So many…

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Grieving during quarantine – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

As much as I like writing (well my version of writing), my favourite part of blogging is getting to read other blogs. They can make you laugh, cry, think and fill you with renewed hope. One of my favourite blogs is by Katie and Evee. It really captured me as like my son, grief often hits when we are far too young. They talk about it so beautifully. It’s grief with hope, loss with the desire to live again. I’m…

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Air Display – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

We had an unexpected visitor. A spectacular predator. For a few minutes we had one of nature’s great air displays. Then it was off. That was so lucky. Would have been so easy to miss this. That brings to mind a slightly unsettling thought. How many of us would be missed if suddenly we were gone. Kinda like Marvels Infinity Wars. It’s an even more pertinent thought these strange days. So many of us are undertaking social distancing or full…

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