Bereavement

Air Display – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

We had an unexpected visitor. A spectacular predator. For a few minutes we had one of nature’s great air displays. Then it was off. That was so lucky. Would have been so easy to miss this. That brings to mind a slightly unsettling thought. How many of us would be missed if suddenly we were gone. Kinda like Marvels Infinity Wars. It’s an even more pertinent thought these strange days. So many of us are undertaking social distancing or full…

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Castle – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Sheriff Hutton Castle is over 850 years old and was built during the reign of King Stephen. Later Richard III acquired the castle through marriage. He made the castle one of the two sites for his Council of the North. The Council was his method of running the North after he became King of England. It has since fallen into ruin. It’s recently been sold for just over £1Million. It is our local castle. Seven years ago we nearly bought…

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Unwanted anniversary – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The way forward is sometimes difficult under foot. Another storm is heading our way. Storm Jorge. The world news is grim and unremittingly depressing. Definitely no solace at school. Son scored 14 out of 15 in his Drama spelling test. The one he got wrong was Unferth. Unferth is a warrior who opposes Beowulf. It’s not a word he’s likely to use much in life. I am so pleased with son. I wouldn’t have got 14 and I’m not dyslexic.…

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Hanging on – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

After all the bad weather. The floods. The driving rain. The damaging winds. After three storms. Conditions which have proved too much for the early daffodils. The snowdrops are still hanging on. They are truly wonderful little delicate flowers. Hanging on applies to the humans as well. Son’s anxiety levels are definitely spiking now. He is returning to the outside world after 10 days of safety within the confines of his house and garden. Days of not needing to build…

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Snowdrops in heaven – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

The first Snowdrops of the year have surfaced after a couple of days of sunshine. On the 26th January 2019 I blogged Was a bit worried that the pup had destroyed the gardens entire snowdrop population. But at last in one corner …. My partner will be happy. On the 25th February 2018 Walks in February would always involve my partner stopping frequently to admire the patches of snowdrops. I must admit I never really paid much attention to them.…

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2003 – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

2003. A time before parenting. A happy dreaming couple. A time when digital photography was still seen as the work of the devil by many. When a mobile phone was just that – a mobile phone – nothing else. My football team was still playing in the European Champions League. 31st May 2003. As the local paper described it. A once in a lifetime opportunity. The chance to see a 90% solar eclipse. Two problems The peak eclipse would happen…

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Lakeside – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

New Years Eve. A walk to a local lake. For our Son a good walk as apart from a couple of anglers we had the place to ourselves. This might have been the first place we walked to when we moved to the village. A time before parenthood. But parenting was at the forefront of our thoughts. It was the main reason we left the city. It looked a good safe place to raise a family. A perfect fit. Fast…

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Flick the switch – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Ans so the transition begins. A transition from a happy and relaxed boy to one wracked with doubt and anxiety. School starts to flick the switch again. How many kids are going through this experience. Far Too Many. Here the school prison gates open on Monday. Son’s words not mine. So on this glorious winters day he tries to wade through the homework which was dished out before Christmas. He spent an hour trying to sketch a mirror image of…

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Waiting – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Every morning we get a scene from Hitchcock’s Birds. Hordes of feathered friends waiting for the me to get my act together. Come on it’s about time we got breakfast. Just remember what happened in The Birds. No cute Angry Birds here…. We watched Angry Birds 2 a few nights back. It’s very funny. Red and Big Terrence are my new role models. The Birds in the Hitchcock movie are just a bit too Deadpool for my liking. Everyday the…

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The river – A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. – Single Dad, Parents Article

Plenty of water flowing under the bridge. The water seemingly never ending. In the run up to Christmas I was worried that it would bring sadness and hurt. Anniversaries and big holidays do that. As it happened yes one or two wobbles but son seemed to enjoy himself. That’s the only thing that matters these days. So it’s late on Boxing Day and soon Christmas will have gone. Job done. I survived. But the flow of grief never stops. It’s…

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