baby loss

Beyond Bea – A Bereavement Charity – Parenting Twins Article

Beyond Bea came into existence following the death of my daughter, Bea in November 2017. I’ve always been interested in bereavement care and actively pursued working in a bereavement role, so I took a lot of interest in supporting women and their families when their baby had died. From being a student, I assisted with supporting families at a local support group and my passion continued as I qualified and became a registered Midwife. I have supported families through the…

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A Man’s guide to Miscarriage – Parenting Twins Article

Miscarriage is often spoken about by women. Of course, women endure the physical pain of passing an ‘inviable foetus’. But the mental pain is shared by both mother and father. Here, Papa Pukka speaks of miscarriage from a male perspective. Do not say, ‘at least we can get pregnant’. What you’re really saying is ‘I did my bit,’ even if you don’t realise it. Do not suggest that, ‘it’s kind of like a heavy period’ because it happened in the first…

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Baby Loss Awareness Week – Gas and Air Blog – Parenting Twins Article

As a perinatal psychiatrist I have sat with hundreds of women over the years after their baby died. This may have happened at 8, 16, 24 weeks or full term.It’s been an immense privilege to hear these stories. I carry these stories within me and I will never forget any of them. What do I know from hearing women?That each woman’s experience is totally and utterly unique to her.That there is no right or wrong way to grieve.No timeline to heal.That you can share…

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The Day That Changed My Life Forever – Parenting Twins Article

It was a routine antenatal appt….. I’d dropped my two kids at my sisters. “I won’t be long” I said.At the Doctors, normal questions were asked. How was I feeling? Blood pressure normal.Have you felt the baby move regularly?“Erm, I think so” I said.‘Pop on the bed and let’s just have a listen” she said.The doppler moved over my swollen belly. I was 17 weeks pregnant. Over the scary stage,excited for the next.Silence.I shifted my body a bit and listened.Silence.The…

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Remembering My Baby Ezra – Gas and Air Blog – Parenting Twins Article

Two weeks before my twenty-second birthday I went out to see a play with my friend, it was called Reasons To Be Happy. My son was nine weeks and four days old and the title of the play made me smirk. Everyone had their reasons, but mine was, by far, the best. I returned to my mother’s house that night excited to see Ezra. I had been away for around five hours. I jogged upstairs to her flat. He was…

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Birth Story of the week – Steph and Bea – Parenting Twins Article

A birth is a birth, no matter the outcome – something which I stand by every single day. I’m a midwife so having a baby was a whole multitude of emotions for me – the worry and panic of everything that can happen but also the capacity to know about the incredible outcomes and the families we see created. On Wednesday 1st November, I went into hospital to be induced. The induction took a while for anything to happen, mostly…

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