Attachment

Response to the Unexpected: Attachment | – Foster Parents Article

 The recommended and mandated safe responses to the novel coronavirus require most of us to veer out of our normal routines and schedules. Parents are working from home, and children are schooling at home. There are no play dates, lunch with friends or family, trips, or outings. Although these situations can be frustrating and overwhelming, they provide opportunities to refocus on our relationships with our children. In the busyness of our lives, we sometimes lose sight of the importance…

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RAD in Foster Care – How Hard It Can Be! – Foster Parents Article

Reactive Attachment Disorder – RAD – in foster care can happen when children fail to attach to their primary caregiver early in life. Janie was 42 and Joe was 50 when two biological half-sisters, ages 3 and 5, made them foster parents in middle Tennessee. This is the foster to adopt story of their family. The birth mom had a number of issues and already had two other children that had been adopted out. Eventually, the birth mom voluntarily relinquished…

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Breathing in the Frost | Herding Chickens and Other Adventures in Foster and Adoptive Care – Foster Parents Article

Sharp, pointed prickles of cold gather in my throat as I lean out of my door and inhale in the early darkness. The mornings here are covered in a paper thin layer of icey white frost. New England Fall crackles with the cold white promise of winter to come. The world is dark and quiet at 4:00 am. Startling from my nature induced revelry, I shut the door against the cold. What am I always telling the children? We aren’t…

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Why I Can No Longer Bubble Wrap My Child – Foster Parents Article

As our children grow into adulthood, we become increasingly helpless to stop them from making choices that could lead to serious consequences. We’re in this season with one of our children. What do you do when you realize you can no longer stop them from doing what they want? I remember the first time my child did something that led to a serious outcome. At the time he was 13 years old, and it was the summer of 2016. He…

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Foundations – Foster Parents Article

At four and a half, Birdy is quite the character. Her nursery teachers describe her as “a natural leader” and say that she “knows her own mind.” As I am familiar with teacher-speak, I know that these terms are euphemistic. A lot of our conversations at home are characterised by intense amounts of stubbornness and a lot of “No!” and “I don’t want to!” More than I would like, I correct her, re-direct her, and cross swords with her. Sometimes…

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Going Back To Mrągowo | Parenting and Attachment – Parents Article

For years we’d dreamed of taking Casey to Europe to show her the sights. The high point – revisiting Poland, where she was born and where Erika’s family is from; a number of Erika’s cousins still live there. Unfortunately Casey had zero interest in her birth mother, her birthplace or Poland in general (unless of course Casey had found that she was descended from King Casimir himself.) So Erika and I made that journey without her. Though writing a book…

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The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting – Foster Parents Article

“The parent can see that although the child is very angry and is throwing his chair about, it is a small, light chair, there is no one else in the room and the danger is minimal.” If yours is the sort of family where a bit of light chair throwing occasionally (or frequently!) features in your day, you’ve probably read a lot of books, been on a number of courses and joined your fair share of social media and real-life…

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The Connected Child Book Summary and How It Works in Real Life – Foster Parents Article

The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family is a book I highly recommend for anyone who parents kids with troubled backgrounds, and should be required reading for all foster and adoptive parents.  This book can be used as a continual parenting resource because it discusses just about any issue that a foster or adoptive parent may encounter. In this in-depth, comprehensive book summary, I outline the variety of topics that this book covers. While The Connected…

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And still I am abused – Foster Parents Article

Guest post as part of our National Adoption Month series: Post by Paige May _________________________________________________________________________________________ I have been punched, but it didn’t leave a mark. I have had my ponytail pulled in anger, but I have a lot of hair. I have been lightly stabbed with a piece of glass, but he was just joking around. I have been cornered and had to push my way out, but I shouldn’t have stood that close to the wall. I have had…

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