Attachment

Why I Can No Longer Bubble Wrap My Child – Foster Parents Article

As our children grow into adulthood, we become increasingly helpless to stop them from making choices that could lead to serious consequences. We’re in this season with one of our children. What do you do when you realize you can no longer stop them from doing what they want? I remember the first time my child did something that led to a serious outcome. At the time he was 13 years old, and it was the summer of 2016. He…

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Foundations – Foster Parents Article

At four and a half, Birdy is quite the character. Her nursery teachers describe her as “a natural leader” and say that she “knows her own mind.” As I am familiar with teacher-speak, I know that these terms are euphemistic. A lot of our conversations at home are characterised by intense amounts of stubbornness and a lot of “No!” and “I don’t want to!” More than I would like, I correct her, re-direct her, and cross swords with her. Sometimes…

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Going Back To Mrągowo | Parenting and Attachment – Parents Article

For years we’d dreamed of taking Casey to Europe to show her the sights. The high point – revisiting Poland, where she was born and where Erika’s family is from; a number of Erika’s cousins still live there. Unfortunately Casey had zero interest in her birth mother, her birthplace or Poland in general (unless of course Casey had found that she was descended from King Casimir himself.) So Erika and I made that journey without her. Though writing a book…

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The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting – Foster Parents Article

“The parent can see that although the child is very angry and is throwing his chair about, it is a small, light chair, there is no one else in the room and the danger is minimal.” If yours is the sort of family where a bit of light chair throwing occasionally (or frequently!) features in your day, you’ve probably read a lot of books, been on a number of courses and joined your fair share of social media and real-life…

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The Connected Child Book Summary and How It Works in Real Life – Foster Parents Article

The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family is a book I highly recommend for anyone who parents kids with troubled backgrounds, and should be required reading for all foster and adoptive parents.  This book can be used as a continual parenting resource because it discusses just about any issue that a foster or adoptive parent may encounter. In this in-depth, comprehensive book summary, I outline the variety of topics that this book covers. While The Connected…

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And still I am abused – Foster Parents Article

Guest post as part of our National Adoption Month series: Post by Paige May _________________________________________________________________________________________ I have been punched, but it didn’t leave a mark. I have had my ponytail pulled in anger, but I have a lot of hair. I have been lightly stabbed with a piece of glass, but he was just joking around. I have been cornered and had to push my way out, but I shouldn’t have stood that close to the wall. I have had…

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