Why is who I am a problem for you? Parents of very cooperative teens may hear how “lucky” they are. This usually comes from parents of teens who are… well, acting like teens. In the same way that most infants spit up until they get the hang of feeding, most teens push back against their parents until they get the hang of managing their own lives with integrity. The inevitable struggles  are rarely pleasant for the teen or her parents, but they’re beneficial to character…