Adoption Talk Link Up

Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Before I Adopted – Foster Parents Article

When we first started fostering, I was pretty uninformed. I could blame it on being young, but the truth is I just don’t think that any training can adequately prepare a person for so many different aspects of adoption and fostering. Most of them you figure out just fine as you go, but there are a few I wish I had understood better before we started. You Don’t Have to Share Your Kids StoryWhen our children were first placed with…

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Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff (Adoption Advice) – Foster Parents Article

I’ve gotten a lot of adoption advice over the years. Some of it’s been good (learn about racism, maintain a relationship with the first family, stop sharing the super intimate details of your child’s adoption with every Tom, Dick, and Harry who asks). Some of it’s been less than good (be stricter and your kid won’t act that way, don’t mention their birth family – it will make them sad, and of course the best: don’t tell them they’re adopted). While…

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All The Embarrassing Moments at Our Adoption Homestudy – Foster Parents Article

When someone suggested embarrassing adoption moments for a link up topic this year, my mind flashed through numerous scenarios over the last 8 years. My life is the kind of life with embarrassing moments a plenty  boogers hanging out of the nose, and Drs not actually asking me out are everyday occurrences in my life. It’s no surprise that several dozen awkward and embarrassing moments center around adoption for me. One such moment, or shall I say “series of moments,” was the…

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The Best Adoption and Foster Care Memoirs – Foster Parents Article

I love reading, but I can be a bit picky. Usually, I either can’t put a book down, or I can’t bring myself to pick it back up. My favorite kind of books are memoirs. I love the feeling of reading the pages and getting to know someone. Learning from real life experiences always goes over better with me than learning from a reference book. I haven’t seen a ton of adoption and foster care memoirs out there. These have been…

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Adoption Talk Link Up Numero One (Introductions) – Foster Parents Article

Welcome to year three of the Adoption Talk Link Up! It’s been amazing to read so many great posts for the last two years, and I can’t wait to see what’s in store this year. Our first topic of the year is INTRODUCTIONS. I’ve wrote lengthier intros before (like here and here), so I’ll try to keep this one short and sweet. 8 years ago this passed Monday, my nowhusbandthenboyfriend Rob and I became foster parents to 4 year old…

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Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Child’s Birth Family – Foster Parents Article

Every year I struggle a bit to come up with a good Christmas gift idea for my children’s birth mom. I want it to be sentimental and unique. Ideally, I’d like some component of it to have been made by my children themselves, though that’s not always the case. Occasionally they have ideas on what they want to give their birth family, but most often they look to me to figure out the plan. We are still trying to come…

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I’ve Always Wanted to Adopt, BUT… – Foster Parents Article

I hear from people all the time, “I’ve always wanted to adopt, but…” and they name a reason or 5 that right now isn’t the right time for them to adopt. I appreciate that people know their limits, but I also believe we sometimes make excuses for things we are afraid to do. There is rarely a perfect time to adopt. If you want to adopt, you probably can. I’ve Always Wanted to Adopt, BUT… I can’t afford itChildren who…

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“You’re Not My Real Mom!” – Foster Parents Article

A friend recently told me that her husband was afraid to adopt, because he wasn’t sure he could handle the possibility of his child saying he wasn’t their “real” dad. I know there was a point in time that I feared that comment myself. Several years ago I was hanging out with a group of adoptive parents at the park. The older kids were running around with a soccer ball to the left, the younger kids were playing on the playground…

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